bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

Bridezillas, they’re everywhere! They can be obsessive and demanding in ways that can sometimes even be heart-breaking to their loved ones.

Planning your wedding is surely a frustrating task, but how far can you take it without making everybody hate you? This bride here might have gone a bit too far!

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

Apparently, she threw a fit because her maid of honor was too anxious to deliver a speech. She even went so far as to strip her of her role as maid of honor!

The soon-to-weds are definitely the stars of the show. However, the maid of honor, the best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen sometimes end up in the limelight, too!

The maid of honor was a bundle of nerves at the event, and the bride was not pleased

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

The bride was so disappointed that she went t Reddit’s popular r/AmITheAsshole page, asking people for their opinions on her situation.

She wrote:

“My fiancé and I were expecting speeches from the best man, maid of honor, and our fathers/mothers.”

Although her maid of honor (MOH) had six months to prepare her speech, she explained to the future bride that she felt too anxious to deliver it at the wedding.

The Future Bride Did NOT Take It Well…

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

When the maid of honor admitted that she had “bad anxiety giving speeches, to the point of panic,” the bride was in a difficult situation, and she did what she thought was right: she demoted her MOH to a regular bridesmaid.

“I told her that the speech is really important to me, and I would be choosing another bridesmaid to be the maid of honor,” she explained. “Well…she was clearly upset but just said ‘ok…’ and that was it.”

Mixed Feelings

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

Although the bride felt a little bad for what she did to her MOH, she still thinks that what she did was the right thing. It is her wedding after all.

“I was looking forward to the speeches, and they mean a lot to me.”

“On top of that, I just think it would be uncomfortable if the best man was giving a speech, and then the maid of honor never spoke. People would be wondering ‘why isn’t she giving a speech too??'”

Not Surprisingly, the Bride-To-Be Had Too Much on Her Plate to Fix Things

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

While she felt guilty about what she did, it wasn’t easy for her to balance between the MOH situation and her other priorities:

“I’m also trying to be very understanding of her anxiety issues, but it’s just been extremely difficult for me to choose a maid of honor and see this whole thing through. I’ve been extremely stressed from my kids and work, so having this additional stressor made things much more challenging for me.”

This Bride Thinks She Did the Right Thing!

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

In the bride’s defense, though, her former maid of honor isn’t completely kicked out of the wedding. She can still be by the bride’s side but in a different position.

“I am still making sure to include the previously chosen maid of honor as a bridesmaid and I will be talking with her to make sure she’s still okay in that role,” the bride wrote.

Despite her confidence in her decision, she still wanted to ask commenters on Reddit to determine whether she had done the right thing or she was an as**le for doing what she did.

And Here’s What the Reddit Community Decided..

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

The AITA jury came together and decided that this bride was, in fact, the as**le.

“Choosing a maid of honor used to be about the relationship you had with her,” this person wrote, “not for what she could do for you in regard to wedding plans/prep/speeches/whatever.”

Shallow Bride?

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

Most people agreed that this bride is just flat-out shallow:

“Your marriage is still valid even if your friend doesn’t speak,” one person wrote. “[You’re the as**le] for requiring that she profess her love for you both in front of a bunch of strangers. Isn’t being in your wedding, taking time off work, purchasing a bridesmaid outfit, etc., enough to show that you are important to her?”

bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid
bride asks if she was wrong to demote ‘anxious’ maid of honor to bridesmaid

Usually, the MOH is a bestie, a sister, or a relative with close ties to the bride. Since that is the case, shouldn’t they have known each other well enough to avoid this misunderstanding?

According to Reddit comments, however, this bride has more interest in a good speech than anything else.

So, what do you think? Did this bride really do the right thing for the wedding to continue, or could she have been more tolerant with her MOH’s anxiety?