We all want constant confidence to burst out of us. Everyone is trying to make people around laugh, to have an answer to everything, trying to look the best. Those are things we do to look good in other people’s eyes.
But what about what we can’t control? What will that tell others about us? That “something” is body language, and in this case – the way we sit.
The point is that we take a certain position unconsciously, and through the subconscious, our hidden desires can manifest at a given moment.
The skill of understanding body language is an exceptional and useful thing. For some, it just goes naturally, while others need to pay more attention. But with a few guidelines, it is possible to understand what a person is like and how she feels, even without a word.
Cultural differences are something to consider before you start analyzing someone. What is normal for some is unthinkable for others. For example, in Japan, there is a seiza. It is a traditional way of sitting, where a person kneels on the floor while buttocks are resting on the heels.
Habits matter, too, because some people always sit in a certain way. That should be in your mind. It means that this way of sitting is not caused by the current situation. It is a matter of habit.
While reading the article, think about your way of sitting and if possible – improve it.
How much slouch there is?
Let’s start with this.
If a person is sitting in an almost horizontal position it can mean that the person has a weak character and attitude. It can also mean that a person is waiting for something.
Squirming in a chair
A person who constantly fidgets while sitting gives the impression of nervousness or boredom. Still, it can be squirming due to uncomfortable sitting chairs. Observator should take this into account, along with other things, before concluding.
Sitting up straight
Some people always sit upright. It shows a certain formality, and these people are often aware of that.
In certain situations, this is necessary. A job interview is one of them.
Sitting erect shows that a person is someone who can be relied on and is responsible. Also, this is a person who is quite independent and knows how to face problems. Health is important to this person because he is certainly aware of the benefits of sitting like this.
Sitting upright can also be a consequence of back pain.
If over time, a person leans back more and more and falls into a chair, it is a sign of boredom or fatigue.
Leaning back on arms
People who sit like this are analytical. They like to observe the situation from the side, without engagement. It can also mean that these people are empathetic.
Often using armrests
These are sensitive people.
Armrests allow these people to feel calm and stable. They also give them a sense of security.
Family and friends see them as emotional support.
It is a sign that the person who crossed legs doesn’t want to let anyone see his weaknesses.
Also, a person is making herself smaller, because her bottom leg is out of sight, which is a signal of insecurity.
Women often do the aristocratic leg cross. It’s when women cross one leg over the other. Man, on the other hand, mostly cross their legs in a way that looks like number four. Ankle over the knee. He’s confident and dominant.
Studies revealed that leg-crossing could show us someone’s financial and social status. Rich and powerful men will sit using the aristocratic leg cross. Opposite to this is a man of lower status and legs crossed resembling number four.
Pay attention! A woman wearing a skirt will most likely cross her legs like this so that no one would see what kind of underwear she is wearing.
Sitting on the floor in this position shows that the person is relaxed and carefree. People who like to sit like this are open and calm-minded. They are open to new ideas, which tells us the position of the knees.
It’s no wonder that this way of sitting is a favorite for meditation.
A person sitting like this has probably never been late anywhere. These are great perfectionists. Although they look cold on the outside, they are lovely people who defend themselves with restraint.
A person who sits by crossing his ankles is a person who likes to have control and be a leader. It’s the type of person who wants information about everything. It can also be a person who shows signs of jealousy in love relationships.
These people, by this way of sitting, show us that the territory is theirs. With this, they also express a desire for domination, both of space and other things.
Sitting with arms crossed
These people are serious, and they don’t hide it. Behind this way of sitting, there are deep thoughts and strong character traits.
Hands on your knees
These are people who are aware of their abilities and virtues. Honest and always focused. They do not shy away from truth and directness. Great at solving problems.
Leaning forward means that it is a curious person who also enjoys making new acquaintances.
A person who leans back while sitting is hypersensitive. Also good at analyzing people, situations, emotions, and relationships.
Sitting on the front edge of a chair
If a person sits like this, it most likely reflects certain anxiety. These types of people don’t want to miss anything during the conversation or event.
Always pay attention to how people sit. We know that for many, honesty is not a favorite thing ever. That’s why you need to try to keep some of the things from above in your memory. Make an effort to apply it to others, but also yourself.