Being Blunt Is Fine, But Being Bitchy Is Not. Which One Are You?

I'm tired of people who excuse their rude remarks as "being blunt." There's a significant difference between being honest and being mean. While everyone is entitled to their opinion and should express it, being outright nasty is unacceptable. If you consider bluntness to be a crucial part of your character, reflect on the following questions:

1. Are You Putting Someone Down

Even if you are a blunt individual, it is never acceptable to demean others. Bluntness should not be synonymous with unkindness. If your words are causing your loved ones to feel bad about themselves, that is simply cruel. Always strive to leave others feeling better than they did before interacting with you.


2. Are You Hurting Someone

While being blunt involves speaking your mind, it does not justify being careless with your words. If you identify as a blunt person, it is crucial to reflect on whether your words are causing harm to those around you. Remember that expressing your thoughts should not come at the cost of hurting your loved ones.

3. Did Anyone Actually Ask You

Suppose you are strolling down the street, and you notice someone wearing an unattractive dress. Is it appropriate to approach that person and express your thoughts about the dress? Certainly not. Regardless of the dress's appearance, no one solicited your opinion. Therefore, what would be the point?


4. Is It Negative

While many assume that being blunt equates to negativity, it doesn't necessarily have to be that way. For instance, you could openly express to the barista at your local coffee shop that you find them attractive or directly ask your best friend about their preferences in bed. Unfortunately, some individuals use bluntness as an excuse to utter hurtful comments. It's crucial to avoid falling into that trap.


5. Is It Going to Help Anyone

If someone specifically requests your candid opinion, it's appropriate to provide them with straightforward feedback. However, if your close friend has already cut off their beautiful locks, would it truly benefit them if you were to criticize their new hairstyle? Absolutely not. If your words are not intended to assist anyone, it's best to refrain from expressing them.


6. Are You Acting Out Of Love

Being blunt can be beneficial in certain circumstances, particularly when it's necessary. For example, if your friend is consistently making bad choices, it may be necessary to be candid with them for the sake of your friendship. However, it's important to reflect on your motives for being blunt. If it's not coming from a place of love or assistance, it's likely best to stay silent.


7. Are You Just Playing Off Your Own Insecurities

Most of the time, when people criticize others, it's because they feel inadequate and unhappy with themselves. This makes them want to belittle others who are successful, often without realizing it. If you're about to be harsh towards someone, take a moment to consider whether your own insecurities are driving your behavior.


8. Are You Losing Friends

If your friends are distancing themselves from you, it could indicate that you're being rude rather than straightforward. The company you keep is a reflection of your own behavior. If your close friend whom you value doesn't want to spend time with you anymore, it's a sign that you may need to adjust your attitude.

9. Are You Jealous

People often feel envious when they witness others succeeding and may try to hinder their progress. Jealousy is commonly referred to as the "green-eyed monster" for a reason. It can drive you to act irrationally, even towards those you care about.


10. Are You Defending Yourself

Standing up for yourself is completely justified if someone is mistreating you. Strong women often find themselves in situations where they need to assert themselves. However, if the situation is not harmful to you or anyone else, it may be better to remain silent.