Many of us like to think that we are good judges of character and that we can spot a questionable person a mile off. However, there are some people who can very easily fool you into thinking they are something else, and this makes it much harder to be a good judge of character. We are talking about classic narcissists, who are known for their skill and manipulation with others. They can make you feel like they are the best thing since sliced bread before they eventually show their true colors.
In order to avoid being taken in by a narcissist, it is well worth knowing how to spot one. Trust me, spotting a true narcissist is much harder than you might think because of their ability to manipulate and fool people. However, looking for some key signs will give you a much better idea of what you are dealing with. In this article, we will look at some of the signs that can help you to spot a narcissist rather than being taken in by one.
What to Look Out For
Remember, spotting a narcissist can be notoriously difficult, so you need to make sure you know what to look for in order to make it easier. Some of the things you need to look for include:
Self-Praising in Conversation
One thing you need to do is pay careful attention when you engage in conversation with the person. A typical narcissist could be talking about anything in conversation but will often bring things around to talk about themselves. Not only this, but they will talk about themselves in a superior way with lots of self-praise. In short, you will notice that the person comes across as conceited and has a lot of good things to say about themselves but not about others.
Their Actions Under Pressure
Another thing you should look at is how the person acts when under pressure. Something as simple as asking the right questions can but a person under pressure. Some people will become understandably nervous when asked certain questions, and they may cave in or not be able to provide you with an answer. However, this is not something that the narcissist will do, as they tend to thrive under pressure. In fact, the words will come out of their mouth as smooth as butter no matter how awkward or embarrassing the question.
What Your Instincts Tell You
One thing that many people fail to do in life is to trust their gut instinct, and this can lead to all sorts of problems. You should never underestimate the power of your instincts, so when it comes to spotting a narcissist, make sure you listen to what your instincts tell you. More often than not, that gut feeling you sometimes get is right, so you should never dismiss it as nerves or other emotions.
How They Speak About Others
You may already have seen how highly the narcissist speaks about themselves – and the fact that they love to talk about themselves – but what about other people? Well, you will often find that narcissists have very little to say about other people other than bad things. Even if they are talking about their own friends and family, they will often put them down while putting themselves on a pedestal in comparison.
Find Out More About Them
These are some of the key things to look for when it comes to spotting a narcissist. However, even after spotting these signs, you may still be unsure. If this is the case, take some time to try and find out more about the person from elsewhere such as friends and family. You can even turn to social media these days to learn more about the person.