It is normal to text with your crush frequently as it demonstrates interest and builds a connection through text. However, excessive messaging can be a problem. If you exhibit any of the following 10 behaviors, it may be best to take a break from texting and allow the other person to initiate communication.
1. You're always the first to initiate conversation
If the guy you're talking to is only responding to your messages and not making an effort to initiate conversation, it's not a healthy dynamic. It's unfair if you're the only one putting in the effort to maintain communication and come up with interesting things to say while he does the bare minimum. This behavior is not a good sign for the potential of your relationship.
2. You don't know if he'd text you if you didn't reach out first
If you are consistently the one initiating text conversations with the goal of staying on his mind, it is unclear if he would initiate contact with you if you were to reduce the frequency of your texts. Taking a step back and reducing the amount of texting may provide insight into his level of interest and whether he thinks of you when you are not communicating via text.
3. You're running out of cool stuff to say
If you find yourself constantly texting each other to the point where your conversations become monotonous or lack depth, it may be a sign that you are leaving nothing to the imagination. This can lead to a lack of conversation when you meet in person.
4. You have clashing texting styles
If you prefer to text frequently while the person you're talking to is content with going days without communication, it may be beneficial to find a compromise that works for both of you. This way, you won't feel like you are constantly chasing or forcing them to talk.
5. You're the one asking all the questions
When you inquire about his day, does he reciprocate by asking about yours and continue the conversation by asking follow-up questions? If not, then the conversation is likely one-sided and not worth investing time and energy into. This also implies an imbalance in the relationship.
6. You're always left on read
If you notice that the messages you send to him are often left unread for prolonged periods of time, it may be a sign that he is not interested in getting to know you better. In this case, it would be best to reduce the frequency of texting and avoid sending follow-up messages. It is not worth investing time and energy into someone who is not reciprocating interest.
7. You text when you're anxious
If you are uncertain about where you stand with this person and this causes you to reach out via text, it may be an indication that you are texting out of insecurity rather than because you have something valuable to share. It is important to understand that texting him more frequently will not alleviate your insecurity. Instead, it is necessary to address the underlying issue, such as what he is doing to make you feel insecure or anxious.
8. You're checking in
If you haven't received a response or haven't heard from him, it may be tempting to send a message to "check in" and gauge his interest. However, this can be seen as an attempt to prompt a response from him and can come across as clingy. It's best to give him space and wait for him to initiate contact. The more you push the issue, the more it may seem like you are being clingy.
9. You're never present in your real life
Texting a guy frequently can be enjoyable and help you feel connected, but it is not healthy if it becomes excessive and causes you to neglect other aspects of your life. It's important to prioritize other activities and avoid spending too much time texting, as it can lead to physical strain such as neck pain.
10. You're too available
Being too available to him through constant texting can send the message that you will always be there to meet his needs, but neglecting your own. It is important to establish healthy boundaries and show him that you also have your own needs to prioritize.