Published in May 2018 / Updated in Feb 2021
Most people think about power as being important, but they may not realize that having authority and impact is actually the key to making real change in the world. Call it what you wish, but it truly is a manipulation tactic to get where you want to go. Whether it’s personal or professional, you want to be an influential person. It’s not always easy to gain prestige, especially if you didn’t start off on the right foot, but you can use these little-known tips to increase your influential (manipulation) power.
Secrets to Gaining Power and Authority
1. Mirror the person who you want to influence
If you need to influence a particular person to see things your way, then you need to start off by being appealing to them. This means playing by their rules. Start by acting as a mirror. Find out what that person likes and doesn’t like and then act that way. For example, if that person likes directness, make sure to be open and frank when you talk to them. You’ll create a meaningful connection with that person, and they’ll open up to you. This will make them trust you, and you are more likely to influence their thought or decision on an issue.
2. Lean forward and become engaging
When you want to take the lead in a conversation or situation, lean forward slightly when you’re trying to exert authority. Another alternative if you’re seated is to use a hand gesture to take up space between you. This is the equivalent of standing up in a classroom to take charge. This simple body language is an unconscious method to let people know that you’re running things, and they will defer to you, even without realizing it.
3. Focus on appearance
It’s a common area that’s overlooked, but the clothes that you wear and the way that you look has a direct effect on people. If you’re in a situation where you need to be an authority, make sure to dress smartly and look polished. In a group of people, the one person wearing a suit is seen as having the greatest influence. By paying attention to how you present yourself, you can increase your impact.
4. Make bold moves
When you’re in a situation where you’re trying to have control, be bold with your statements and goals. It’s difficult for some people to be direct and open with what they want, fearing rejection. Still, you can actually have a greater amount of influence by letting people know exactly what you expect from every situation if you’re in an interview, state why you want the job and why you’ll be a good fit for the position. This will have the greatest power on your outcome and lead to greater control in your life.
Why you’re not an influential manipulator yet?
Why haven’t you become the boss in your situation yet? The reason is that you haven’t yet mastered the art of taking charge of every situation. Whether personal or professional, you don’t have to settle for a backseat. Start by deciding that you want to play an active part in your life and where it’s headed. Then put on a bold face and start deciding who you need to influence in order to get where you want to go. After you’ve done some strategic planning, get started manipulating the situation with the secrets listed above. You’ll be amazed at how effective you can be with some simple changes.