You may not have
given this topic much thought recently, but it matters today. The
problem is that there is no consensus on what is acceptable and what
is not. And yet, you have to ponder the question — is something
wrong with you if you can’t date a transgender person?
Many people think
that it should depend on your dating preferences. And for many
people, dating a transgender person seems to be an outright no-no.
But before passing
judgments and putting labels on people based on what opinion they
hold regarding this issue, I think it is worth considering all the
First of all, I
think we can all conceive that dating is difficult for a transgender
person. And that is on top of all the changes they have to put
themselves through. And when they are honest about who they are, they
can even become the target of attacks.
The worst part is
that these kinds of attack, physical or otherwise, are not on a
These people might
have genuine sentiments about being born with the wrong gender, but
eventually, other people have to have opinions about their life
So, as shocking as
it sounds that some people claim that they would kill their partners
after finding out that they were transgender, such reactions are not
But do such concerns
give transgender people a right to conceal their history?
BBC offered a deeper
insight into this issue. In particular, there was an article about
one of the reality shows, Celebrity Big Brother, in which a
participant asked her colleagues whether they would date
One of the
participants, Ginuwine, said there was nothing wrong with dating a
trans woman, but he also added he wouldn’t be caught dead doing it.
A transgender woman,
Miss SaHHara, claimed that this comment showed ignorance on
Ginuwine’s part. According to her, the ignorance “was fed by a
media that often depicts trans women in a sensationalized way, with
strong bone structure and husky low-baritone voices.”
She went on to add
that many men are concerned about what society might think of them if
they date transgender women.
Another expert, Dr.
Liadh Timmins, said the comments are “transphobic.” Apparently,
on a surface level, some transgender women are indistinguishable from
She argues that the
attraction that leads to dating should depend on that alone. But when
someone seems like a suitable date based on their appearance but then
gets eliminated for the fact that they are transgender is
According to her,
there should be no distinction between transgender women and regular
women or cis women (cisgendered).
Such opinions about
transgender women apparently make it harder to break down the
barriers that trans gender people have been trying to fight against
for so long.
But when it’s all
said and done, there is little you can do to someone who refuses to
date a transgender woman.
Honestly, I don’t
foresee a future where people will readily agree on whether it’s
good or bad to date a transgender person. Can you?