Anthony Bourdain's Ex-Girlfriend Shares Powerful Message About Coping With Mental Health Problems

anthony bourdain’s ex-girlfriend shares powerful message about coping with mental health problems

Bourdain's ex-girlfriend shares powerful and accurate message about depression and loneliness.

Anthony Bourdain's suicide left the world in shock and pain.

His tragic death also prompted many who had been through a dark place with their mental health to speak out about depression.

One of these people is Paula Froelich, a journalist and author, who once dated Bourdain.

anthony bourdain's ex-girlfriend shares powerful message about coping with mental health problems

Taking to Twitter, Paula posted a candid thread about the realities of depression and loneliness.

She started off the thread by saying depression doesn't care about your societal status.


She wrote:

"Here's the thing about depression: it's a sneaky little, sticky b***h."

"You can be rich as hell, totally successful but still lonely AF. The 'you're nothing but a fraud' voice only goes away when the Ambien takes effect."

"The problem with that is Ambien makes the harsh voice louder in the morning. And there's only a few you can talk to about it."

"But even then sparingly because it just gets old, doesn't it? And you become the sad sack ... even though you're usually so fun."

In her thread, Paula also addressed how depression can take hold of your brain in a way that no amount of fame or friendship can cure.

She said:

"And it can take a village of pills, shrinks, empathetic friends, neighbors, to pull you out of a slump."


"And guess what?! You're not manic or some other couch shrink diagnosis you just have—just regular old depression."

Even medication—while it's sometimes helpful—isn't the solution for a lot of people struggling with mental health.

Paula explained:

"You know because you've wondered and went to go get checked out hoping that there was some magic pill somewhere that would make it all better."

"But no. There's not."

She also noted that shame and low self-esteem flares up during the depression.

She said:


"[Depression] magnifies everything into something awful. And you don't know when or if this cycle will end..."

"So, it's also terrifying, embarrassing, and humiliating because there's something wrong with you."

"But take heart in knowing: only the best, funniest, loveliest, most empathetic, wonderful, talented people have depression."

"You're in a good crowd. Now. Let's go fight that black dog. Together."

Paula's thread inspired other people to chime in with their personal experiences about mental health.

One person said:

"Your comments on depression are the best I have ever read. They [exactly] describe how one thinks and feels."

"I will save these words. Makes one feel not alone."


Another added:

"Very amazing words."

"It is very hard to empathize with depression because most people who have experienced it get to a better place."

"But your words help those who do get it."

While a third said:

"I have suffered with depression and anxiety most of my childhood and all of my adult life."

"Thank you for putting into words what most of us can't, so that others may have a better understanding."

While it's hard to open up about depression, it's crucial to speak out so people know they're not alone.