Many women hold a false belief that they are fundamentally unlovable. They may feel that they are too damaged, difficult, unattractive, or unworthy, but all of these negative thoughts are baseless. Even if they have been hurt, left, abandoned, or rejected in the past, they should not view these experiences as evidence for being unlovable. In fact, it is possible that the person who caused them pain is the one who is less deserving of love, not them.

1. You've Been Lied To… A Lot

In the past, you have been involved with partners who lacked the courage to be truthful about the relationship. They placed blame on you for issues that were beyond your control, leading you to feel responsible. These individuals deceived you by claiming that your expectations were too high and unrealistic. However, the reality is straightforward: they were not suitable for you. They were neither willing nor able to fulfill the expectations you had of them as a partner, yet refused to acknowledge their shortcomings. It was easier for them to lie and manipulate you into feeling unworthy of better or at fault for the relationship's failures, making you doubt yourself and feel unlovable. These lies were meant to keep you in the relationship for as long as they wanted, as they knew deep down that you were far superior to them.

2. You're Not Only Lovable, You're Remarkably Captivating

Men who try to make you feel small do so because they fear you'll be strong enough to leave them. This isn't to excuse their behavior, as they're simply garbage. However, it's important to recognize that you're a desirable person, and that men are drawn to your captivating qualities. Unfortunately, this means that you may attract some undesirable individuals along the way who will say or do anything to be with you. You're so lovable that manipulative people will target you in order to stay close. It's not your fault that you've encountered these types of individuals in the past, as bad guys are often drawn to people who possess your remarkable qualities.

3. You've Been Through Hell And Came Out Stronger

You've experienced significant heartbreak in your romantic relationships in the past, and the pain was excruciating. However, there is a positive aspect to this experience: you have grown stronger than ever before. You understand that you're capable of being independent and self-sufficient, and you don't need to depend on anyone else. You're a survivor who has learned to accept that you deserve love, respect, and happiness, even if it feels daunting at times.

4. You Aren't Responsible For Anyone Else's Insecurities

Unconfident men may have dumped lies and manipulations on you in order to make themselves feel more secure, which may have caused you to feel unlovable. They might have felt better when you felt worse, trapped, or less hopeful about finding something better. However, this kind of behavior is completely unacceptable, and you should not have to suffer because someone else can't make themselves feel bigger without making you feel small. You are not responsible for their issues, and it is not your responsibility to fix them. Anyone who makes you feel worthless to keep you around is not worth your time. The correct way to keep a woman is by being a loving and supportive partner, not by sabotaging their confidence and self-worth. You are not to blame for their insecurities and should not be punished for them.

5. The Future Is Up To You

If you persist in believing the falsehood that you are unlovable, you risk accepting less than what you truly deserve. In reality, you deserve a respectful and supportive partner who brings positivity into your life. I hope you refuse to tolerate any form of abuse from a partner from this day forward. It is my wish that you cease blaming yourself for the hurtful actions and words of others. I hope you surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you, and that you choose a path of self-care and self-love. You are deserving of these things, but it is up to you to make them a reality.