An Open Letter To The Woman Who Hasn't Been Herself Lately
Published in Jan 2019 / Updated in Oct 2021
Listen, life gets hard, harder. There are situations that might get overwhelming. But guess what? You have faced much worse than this. Do you remember how life hasn't been just sunshine? Then, do understand that life hasn't been just storms either. Stop for a while and remember the toughest of times you've been through. No one would have done it better than you did.
You are made this strong to face challenging situations. It's all about dealing with it. That wouldn't change you. It shouldn't. Don't let a problem or an external force have the power to change the strong person you are. You might feel like you haven't been yourself lately. It is more like you are maturing, becoming more challenged, and simply being more powerful. Remember the happiness you experienced before all these things happened. How blissful it was.
As a woman, no one other than you can understand how mood swings can actually affect a person. Isn't it a frequent thing? Does it mean you have changed? No. Remember that no matter how much you face, how much you experience, your innocence stays. You haven't lost it yet. You always have the option to take up, after which you will experience real happiness in life.
One day, you will understand that the situations may come and go, but your confidence remains. In fact, confidence is the most beautiful thing a woman can wear. The world can be unfair, rude, and perhaps the change could be all about how you have started perceiving your new circumstances in the world. This doesn't mean the end of everything. This mere heartbreak cannot be the reason you lose yourself. You may feel like it has, but you never lose yourself internally. The essence of the innocent you is there, deep within.
Everything needs recovery time. Every heartbreak, every fall, every bad thing is recovered over a period of time. Trust how the time has healed you from your first heartbreak, first downfall. Trust that and as for now, put on a smiling face for the world, keep your head high and walk like you are still strong enough to face more. It is high time you stop pushing your horizons to impress other people. It is time to live the life you want. For all the things you have wanted to achieve, this is the time you start it.
The definitive personality works within you and trusts me when I say your character is constant. In fact, such hard times help you become a better version of yourself and never a lesser version. The only mistake you are doing right now is giving up on your happiness. No, a heartbreak caused by another person cannot be the reason you feel like you don't deserve happiness in life. First, learn to respect yourself. More than that, value yourself. Understand there is always a key to any door. Happiness is what shines from within and that glow cannot be dimmed by anyone.
Look at the mirror, smile just once and look at how genuine and strong it is. Are you ever willing to give up on that? There is more positivity to life, keep walking and I promise, once this phase is over, you will shine brighter.