An Open Letter To The Guy Who Rejected Me Because Of My Weight
Published in Jan 2019 / Updated in Aug 2021
I put myself out there and allowed you into my life with no reservations, thinking and hoping the feeling was mutual. It’s a real shame that you rejected me, and a bigger shame that you did so because you thought I was too fat for you.
1. Beats me whether I should take offence or just be amused
I’m still unsure about how I should feel about all this. One minute you are doing your best to get close to me, and the next, you decide to drop that “too fat” bombshell on me? Why you had to wait until I started really getting into you is something I’ll never understand and I’m not even sure if I should be amused or take serious offence at that.
2. You are as shallow as they come
There is a lot more to a person than their physical appearance, and the fact that you can’t appreciate that truth only speaks of just how superficial and sad you truly are. That my weight was the ultimate deal-breaker is a dead giveaway of just how shallow and vain you are, and I’m glad I don’t have to associate with your kind anymore.
3. I love my body and that’s what counts
It took me a long time to accept and appreciate my body, and I will not allow any negative energy from you, or anyone else to make me feel otherwise. I love myself, and I love my body. I couldn’t care less if you don’t feel the same way.
4. How about taking a look in the mirror?
I’m not sure if you realize this, but you are not exactly the kind who could compete with the likes of Idris Elba and George Clooney for a shot at the title of “sexiest man alive.” I’m not trying to be mean, but you were not exactly my type, physically, but that was definitely something I wasn’t too keen on because I kept my focus on your sense of humour and other things that really mattered.
5. I’m beautiful the way I am
My beauty, like my worth, is not defined by some number on a scale. I know that I’m beautiful, and my weight has got absolutely nothing to do with it.
6. I always take care of myself
I couldn’t help but chuckle to myself in disbelief when you said that I was only fat because I was too lazy to work hard and shed off all the weight. I don’t sit around all day stuffing my face with food. I enjoy a very active lifestyle, and you have no right to judge me.
7. It’s your loss
Yes, I have my flaws, just like everyone else, but I’m such a great catch and any guy would be so lucky to have me in their life. I know just how much I can bring into a relationship, and it is a pity that you won’t ever get to experience that.
I am glad you rejected me when you did. I will always do me, and I know that when the right guy comes along, something as superficial as my weight will be a non-issue. So, again, thank you for leaving when you did.