Some men may seem secretive, but this doesn't mean that all of their secrets are major, embarrassing issues. Sometimes, there are just things that men may feel too self-conscious or vulnerable to share because they don't want to seem weak or clingy. It may seem silly, but it's a reality for some men. Here are ten examples of things that men secretly appreciate about women, but may be hesitant to admit:
1. When you make the first move
It's a common misconception that men always want to be the ones to initiate things in a relationship. In reality, many men enjoy it when a woman takes the lead, whether it's through texting first, asking them out, or initiating intimacy. This can be especially flattering for men, as it goes against traditional gender roles and can take some pressure off of them. However, some men may be hesitant to admit this because they fear being judged for not conforming to societal expectations.
A back rub from a woman can be a relaxing and intimate experience that can be enjoyed any time, any place. It could be in bed, on the couch, or even in the car. It's a great way to show someone that you care about them and can be a very enjoyable experience. However, it may not be appropriate to explicitly ask for a back rub or to express your desire for one in a direct manner.
3. Texting us during ladies' night
It's totally normal and healthy for you to want to spend time with your friends, and a good partner will understand and support you in that. At the same time, receiving a text from you while you're out with your friends can be reassuring for your partner, as it shows them that you're thinking about them and haven't forgotten about them. It's the little gestures like this that can mean a lot in a relationship.
While it may be true that some men may not actively seek out compliments as often as some women do, it doesn't mean that they don't appreciate receiving them. Just like how you probably enjoy being complimented by your partner, men also appreciate it when their efforts and qualities are recognized and praised. It's important to express appreciation and admiration for your partner, regardless of their gender.
5. Bragging about us in public
It's not hard to believe at all that men want their partners to be proud of them. In fact, it's a common desire for people in any relationship to want to make their partner proud and feel appreciated. It's natural to want to impress and do well for the person you care about, and that desire doesn't usually go away over time. So it's understandable that men would appreciate it when their partners brag about their achievements and show pride in them.
6. Asking for our help/advice
While it may not be accurate to say that most men are needy, it is true that many men enjoy feeling needed and valued by their partners. It's natural to want to feel like an important and integral part of a relationship, and being asked for help or advice can be a way for men to feel useful and needed. Similarly, feeling trusted by a partner is a positive and reassuring feeling for many people. It's important to communicate and ask for help or support when needed in a relationship, and it can strengthen the bond between partners.
7. Making you smile/laugh
We love making you laugh and seeing you smile from the moment we start courting you. It gives us a sense of pride and accomplishment, even though we may try to hide it. Deep down, we really care about your happiness and enjoy being the reason that you are feeling happy and cheerful.
8. Showing us a little affection
While sex is certainly high on a man's list of desires, it's important to note that we also really appreciate affection in other forms. This includes things like hugs, kisses, and any other kind of physical contact that is given out of love. These small acts of affection make us feel good and are greatly appreciated, even if we may secretly hope that they lead to sex. Ultimately, it's about feeling loved and valued.
9. Saying what you want
Contrary to what may be portrayed in some media, most men prefer it when women are straightforward and direct about their desires. This includes what they enjoy in bed. It helps us to better please you and can improve the intimacy in the relationship. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner in order to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship. The saying goes, "help me, help you." Being direct and clear about your needs can benefit both parties in the relationship.
10. Being the little spoon
While this may not be true for all men, many of us enjoy cuddling and appreciate it when our partner takes on the role of the "big spoon" from time to time. It's a nice change of pace and allows us to relax and feel comforted. Don't be afraid to initiate cuddling or switch up the traditional dynamic – it can be enjoyable for both partners.