Texting is a prevalent aspect of relationships today, whether one likes it or not. Attempting to avoid it is futile. However, it is crucial to understand that individuals have distinct texting styles, particularly when it comes to how men text.
1. We keep it short and sweet
It is important for women to understand that most men are not fond of texting. While women tend to enjoy it, men often prefer to keep their texts short and straightforward. They may not see the value in spending a lot of time crafting long, detailed messages. This means that a man's brief texts should not be taken as a lack of interest. A guy who likes you may still keep his texts curt. However, if a man texts you in paragraphs, it is a strong indication that he likes you and values your time.
2. We're not marathon men
Most men prefer short texts and avoid marathon texting sessions as they are often busy and don't want to engage in non-stop texting all day. This should not be taken personally. If a guy is interested, he may tolerate it, but prolonged texting can make the conversation tedious for both parties.
3. The filter goes away when we like you
Most men tend to be cautious and calculated when they text. However, if a man truly likes you, he may put his guard down and be more honest in his texts. If his messages seem uncharacteristically genuine and candid, it could be a sign that he is smitten with you and has let go of his usual filtering.
4. The longer the wait, the better (sometimes)
Waiting a long time for a response to a text can be frustrating, but in some cases, it may be a positive sign. Men who frequently text multiple women tend to have a routine and send similar messages. If you find yourself waiting for a response, it may mean that he has deviated from his usual routine and is taking the time to carefully craft a response, indicating that he is interested in you and cares about what he is saying to you.
5. More can be better (for us)
Most men tend to not be frequent texters, but exceptions do exist. If a man consistently initiates the text conversation and doesn't mind sending many messages, it's likely that he is interested in you.
6. We hate emojis
It's understood that many women enjoy using emojis in their text messages. However, most men do not share this preference as there are too many emojis to keep track of and their meanings can often be confusing. Men often don't have the time or interest to decipher them. Women should try to limit their use of emojis to just the basic smiley face unless the man initiates the use of emojis in the conversation.
7. We'd prefer you to take it easy on abbreviations
Texting abbreviations can also be confusing for many men, as they often feel like a foreign language. Overuse of these abbreviations can make it difficult for men to understand the message, resulting in a loss of interest. Men tend to prefer simplicity, so it's best to avoid excessive use of abbreviations and keep the messages clear and easy to understand.
8. Please text us first
When you exchange numbers with a man, it's often best to initiate the first text message. Many men are not fond of texting and may appreciate the gesture if you take the lead. This can also be seen as a sign of interest and will make it easier for them to open up and admit their own interest in you.
9. We keep the questions coming if we like you
If you are uncertain about a man's interest in you, pay attention to how many questions he asks you during your text conversations. When a man likes you, he will often try to keep the conversation going by asking you personal questions. This can be a sign of genuine interest, even if it may become a bit overwhelming.
10. Texting shouldn't be a dealbreaker
It's important to remember that men generally don't place as much importance on texting as women do. They may not understand why a lack of text messages on a particular day would upset you. Even if they are interested, they may not be consistent texters. It's important not to read too much into texting habits and to pay more attention to their actions.
What Men Don't Understand About How Women Text
1. Why do you want to text so much?
Many men perceive that women view texting as a hobby or a passion, rather than just a way to communicate. They may notice that women often text frequently and at length, sending messages that are long and detailed. This behavior can be difficult for men to understand and can be overwhelming for them to keep up with.
2. Why can't you leave the emojis alone?
Men may use emojis occasionally when appropriate, but it's often observed that women use them excessively in their text conversations. Some women even rely solely on emojis to convey their message, which can be confusing and difficult for men to understand. Men generally prefer when women use words to express their thoughts and feelings.
3. Why do you get so uptight when you realize we don't like texting?
It may be considered rude when men ignore text messages or respond with a one-word answer to a long message, but it's important to understand that many men do not enjoy texting as much as women do. This lack of enthusiasm for texting should not be taken personally, it's simply a difference in communication style.
4. Wouldn't you rather just wait until we're hanging out?
Instead of sending long, detailed text messages, it may be more effective to wait and share anecdotes and opinions in person. This allows for a better understanding of your tone and body language, making it easier for the other person to be engaged in the conversation. It also allows for a more natural flow of conversation and a better gauge of the other person's response. It may seem like a more logical approach for many men.
5. Why do you rely on texting to decide whether or not we like you?
Women often look for signs of interest through text messages, using the frequency and content of messages as an indicator of a man's feelings. Men know this and may make an effort to text more if they are interested, but it's important to remember that this may not be an accurate measure of interest and should not be relied on as the sole indicator.
