If you're constantly in a relationship, it's hard to justify feeling sorry for yourself about being single. However, you may occasionally ponder whether your friends who are in relationships are experiencing something different than you. They appear to be incredibly content, and you're unsure why you're not feeling the same way. It's possible that you're settling for subpar relationships instead of holding out for the right person. How can you determine if this is the case?
1. You're always on the lookout
If you go out with the intention of checking out other guys even though you're already in a relationship, it's possible that you're not with the right partner. It's natural to notice other people, but constantly daydreaming about being with someone else is not a good sign. Surprisingly, some individuals even fantasize about their actual boyfriends.
2. Your sex life is always lackluster
It's understandable if you're not attracted to your partner, you might not be interested in being intimate with them. However, it's important to remember that passion and heat in the bedroom are what differentiate our boyfriends from our male friends. If you don't share these feelings with your best guy friend, don't risk ending up in a relationship where the love is not mutual, even if he's extremely reliable.
3. You want to change him
Having a lengthy list of things to change about your partner is a clear indication that you may be settling. If you dislike various aspects of him such as his sense of humor, hairstyle, location, kissing style, friends, and scent, it's possible that you only went along with him because he liked you without considering your own preferences. There should be at least one outstanding quality about him that sets him apart from other men, otherwise, what is the purpose of being with him?
4. You feel like you're lucky to have anyone
Being fortunate in love is different from being fortunate just to land a date. It's crucial not to undervalue yourself and settle for a relationship just because some random guy is interested in you. If you frequently move from one relationship to another without being single, it may be worthwhile to reflect on the reasons behind this pattern.
5. You can't stand being alone
Perhaps you're someone who feels more comfortable when there's someone around to assist with physical and emotional challenges. If the thought of going grocery shopping without your boyfriend causes genuine anxiety, it's possible that you're overly reliant on having a partner in your life, any partner. It may sound absurd, but sometimes we can only attract the right person when we're entirely self-sufficient and complete on our own. Take a deep breath.
6. You're afraid there's no one better
Remaining in a relationship out of fear that there may not be any other options is the ultimate act of settling. If your current partner isn't the right fit for you, then undoubtedly there's someone better suited for you out there. Would you rather have a future boyfriend who settles for a relationship or someone who believes that you're out there waiting for them? When other guys perceive that you're already in a relationship, they're less likely to ask you out, so you may have no idea who's genuinely interested in you.
7. You feel too guilty about dumping people
Relationships can be complicated, and breaking up is often a part of the process. It's understandable to feel bad about the timing, especially if your partner just lost their job or has family coming to town, but it's crucial to be truthful about your feelings in the long run. It may sting your partner's heart a little, but it would be unfair to both of you to stay in a relationship that your heart isn't genuinely invested in. Honesty is the best policy.
8. You're the only one making compromises
Compromises are essential in every relationship, and in our friendships, we usually do it naturally because we care about and support our friends. However, in romantic relationships, where people may be more controlling about their power dynamic, overcompensating or undercompensating can quickly disrupt the balance. The right partner will do more than meet you halfway occasionally because they genuinely care about your happiness and well-being.