It wasn't until my spouse was unfaithful to me that I fully grasped the severity of cheating. The actuality of the situation far exceeded my imagination and the impact was devastating. To put it simply, it was awful. However, I have since learned that true men would never cheat on their beloved partner. Here's the reasoning behind this belief:
1. Real Men Do The Right Thing Even If It Hurts
In the movie "Lars and the Real Girl", there is a memorable quote where Ryan Gosling's character asks his older brother how to know if you're a man. Initially, his brother is uncertain, but he eventually responds, "Being a man involves doing what's right, even if it's painful; staying loyal to your partner; and admitting when you're mistaken." That sums it up perfectly in my opinion.
2. Real Men Respect The Woman They're With
Genuine love is accompanied by respect. Anyone who insults a woman without considering her emotions and mental well-being is undoubtedly a contemptible individual. A man who truly values his partner would never intentionally cause such hurt and would always act with respect.
3. Real Men Have Self-respect
True men not only respect their partners but also respect themselves. It's when people lack self-respect that they become destructive. If an individual views themselves negatively, there is nothing to prevent them from acting accordingly.
4. Real Men Know How To Say No To Temptation
Although it's difficult, I acknowledge that temptation is a significant challenge. Despite encountering tempting situations during my marriage, I recognized the importance of walking away because I valued my partner and myself. While I no longer have the same level of respect for my former partner, I am aware that resisting temptation is feasible and something that only authentic individuals can achieve.
5. Real Men Value What They Have
Living in New York, I observe the frequency with which men love with reservation. It appears that men in this city are constantly searching for something better, and it's disheartening. However, a true man appreciates the value of his relationship and accepts any flaws or difficulties that may arise, making him less likely to cheat.
6. Real Men Don't Want To Tarnish Their Reputation
There is a common saying that goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," and I believe it holds some truth. However, being branded a cheater is not something that any respectable man desires. It's a label that sticks with him forever, and no true man wants to be associated with such negative connotations.
7. Real Men Consider The Other Women In Their Life
Most men have a mother, sister, or daughter, and they often consider how they would feel if their loved ones were cheated on. Realizing the pain and devastation that infidelity can cause, they are less inclined to betray their own partners, as they can empathize with the perspective of their female relatives.
8. Real Men Give A Damn
The truth is that authentic men care. They care about their partners, themselves, their capacity to resist temptation, and all aspects of their lives. They don't approach things with half-hearted effort but rather are fully committed and devoted. If they feel like their relationship is no longer working, they will end it before resorting to cheating. Why? Because real men would never betray the woman they love, or once loved, even if the love has faded. They do the right thing.