Before you take things with your girl to the “next level,” there are a few things you should do first. Sex is an important relationship milestone, and it could either make or break the relationship.
So, to make sure you don’t mess anything up with your potential lover, here are a few things to keep in mind.
1. Is She Okay With It?
This is the first concern you should have and the first question you need to ask yourself before you consider sleeping with her.
You are probably wondering how the hell you are supposed to know if she is okay with having a sexual relationship, but you can use a few hints. For instance, does she trust you?
If she seems guarded and mostly keeps her hands close to her body when you are around, then she definitely doesn’t trust you as much as she should be intimate with you.
However, if she seems free around you and usually expresses herself without limitations, then you might have a chance.
A girl who is okay with having a sexual relationship will have no problem making eye contact with you or touching you.
2. Make Your Move
If you have already figured out that she would be okay taking it all the way with you, then the second thing you should do is make your move.
In fact, if she is as crazy about you as you are about her, she might make the move as well.
It’s best to stay prepared for when the chance presents itself so that you can make a move successfully.
3. Make Sure You Are Ready
For most people, getting intimate with someone they care about is so exciting. However, understand that starting a sexual relationship changes a lot of things about your relationship.
Are you ready for these changes, because things will change very fast? For instance, the journey towards a committed relationship might begin almost immediately.
Are you ready for that commitment? If you are not ready for these changes, then it’s best to hold off until you are fully prepared.
4. Change Your Life
We’ve already mentioned that you should be ready for significant changes once you begin a sexual relationship with your girl. However, even before you sleep together, there are changes you should make first.
For instance, you will have to change your social life considerably and act more responsibly.
5. Be Ready To Hear Her Say She Doesn’t Do It Often
Many girls will want you to know that you are special and that they don’t usually get intimate with anyone. So, she might say, “I don’t do this often.”
She might be telling you the truth, but if she is not, don’t hold it against her. So, don’t pursue the relationship based on this statement.
It is possible that she is saying it to make you feel comfortable and avoid shocking you with the truth.
6. Yeah, About That
Be prepared to see those hairpins everywhere around your home. They will be in your sinks, your bed… everywhere.
There is no way around this. So, it’s definitely easier if you get used to seeing them all over the place.
7. Prepare For The Texts
If she sends you a text and you don’t answer, be ready for a follow-up text or even a call. You might be busy, and she might have seemed to understand that before you started sleeping together.
However, once you get intimate, she will expect you to be more available. She might even seem like a bother because she will want to keep checking up on you all the time.
If you don’t up your communication game, she will get suspicious, and that’s never a good thing. Once she imagines that you can actually cheat on her, then you will have one heck of a time proving that you are not.
In short, keep your phone close.
As you can see, starting an intimate relationship with your girl is a process. Once you have decided to take this step in your relationship, understand that there will be many changes in your life.