7 Signs Your Partner Isn’t In Love And Is Just Settling For You
Published in Feb 2019 / Updated in Aug 2021
We all want to be with someone who wants to be with us and is not just settling for us because the dream partner they had in mind did not show up. Unfortunately, you might end up with someone who is just settling for you, which sucks.
But how can you know that you ended up with someone who simply settled for you and doesn’t really love you? Here are some clues to unveiling this uncomfortable truth.
1. You feel unappreciated and undervalued
If your partner does not make you feel like you are a priority, they might have settled for you. To them, you might be more of a convenience than the partner of their dreams.
2. You are in charge of all the plans in the relationship
If someone settled for you, you would often feel like it is your responsibility to plan everything in your relationship. If your partner does not bother with such plans, it could be because they are not in the relationship they wish they had.
3. Only sex seems to connect you two
While a good relationship involves a healthy sex life, if that is the only thing going for you, then your partner might have settled. If there is no other connection between you, then that is a huge red flag.
4. It feels like a partnership, not a relationship
When you are with someone who settled, you will feel like you have a partnership. Certain physical things hold you together, and not a deep personal connection that would exist in the absence of the physical needs keeping you together.
5. You are afraid to express your opinions
If you are in a relationship that makes you feel afraid to express your thoughts, especially when you know they will not make your partner happy, you might not be in a loving relationship. Similarly, if what you say never gets any attention from your partner, then your relationship might not be what you thought it was. A loving partner will care about all the things that concern you.
6. Your partner is your critic
If someone settles for you, they will often try to change you into the person they dreamed they would end up with. This can make them very critical of you in an effort to turn you into the person they wish you were.
7. They lack interest in many aspects of your life
Someone who is in love with you wants to know as much about you as possible, even about things that would typically not interest them. On the other hand, someone who is just settling will not have any interest in finding out too much about you and what you are like.
Relationships can be complicated, and sometimes you might be deceived because people get into relationships with divergent agendas. Above are some ways to know that your partner did not choose you but rather settled for you when the relationship they imagined did not happen.