I can’t tell why your friendship fell apart, but if you feel like it did, you shouldn’t be holding onto something that no longer exists. Letting go of people who no longer care will set you free and open your heart to new experiences.
Friendships, just like love relationships, don’t have to last forever. But unless there was some big fight, it’s weird to sort of break up with a friend. Yet, you need to because things and people change, and you don’t want to be stuck in a one-sided relationship.
Here are six reasons you should let go of people who no longer care about you, and it includes friends, fake friends, ex-partners.
It’s normal to grow apart because we’re always changing. There’s no need to feel bad or have negative feelings for your ex-friend. You are no longer on the same path, and that’s ok.
Cherish the memories while letting them go. You can’t bring back your friendship because you’re different now and you no longer share the same passions, lifestyles, or opinions. Let them go; otherwise, you’ll end up resenting them, which isn’t healthy or proactive.
Lack of loyalty and trust
Find someone with whom you can share your secrets and dreams, knowing their lips will remain tightly sealed. If you can’t trust a person, of you, feel as if they aren’t loyal to you, you’re friendship isn’t real.
The same can be said for romances without a sense of trust or loyalty: the situation is toxic, and you’re only getting more frustrated, angry, and upset. Let your faux friend go before you hurt yourself even more.
If someone’s always competing, placing blame, manipulating, or putting you down, they are no longer your friends. Maybe they were, but, as we said, people change.
It’s time to let go and be done with this person. They aren’t bringing you joy or giving you a shoulder to cry on. They are the reason you cry, and do you have time and energy to waste? No, save it for someone who cares.
Lack of support
A “bad” or merely false friend doesn’t have to be the one causing you pain. Instead, they are acting selfishly, and their lack of support is confusing and kind of sad, especially if you have a long history.
You deserve a friend who will brainstorm your decisions and challenge you, not someone who simply doesn’t give a darn.
It’s not what you want or need
Maybe you met when you were in a different mindset, but now, you see that a person isn’t what you need or someone you want in your life.
Let go of people when you know you’re not capable of being their friend. You both deserve someone who will encourage you, care for you, and give insightful comments.
If you have no idea where you stand in any partnership, it’s time to call it quits. You don’t need the pressure of not knowing if you should call someone. It will make you seem needy, clingy, but that’s what lack of clarity does even to the best of us.
If the person can’t make you feel as though you’re important, reflect on why you’re allowing someone to treat you this way.
Spending time with people who are your real friends is priceless. They are the family you always wanted, the ones who will tease you and guide you, listen, and annoy you. Friendships, like other relationships, have to be meaningful and based on shared interests and goals. If it’s one-sided or harmful in any way, let go of it.