Finding your “the one” is never easy. That is why losing the person you thought you were destined to spend the rest of your life with can be such a devastating blow.
Also, as harsh as it sounds, allowing your soulmate to get away is a stupid thing.
Some people are smart enough to realize they have made a mistake and get things back on track as soon as they can. Others wait until it’s too late.
The problem is that a lot of people are so scared of commitment. Also, while others might not fear commitment, they might think they are not ready for it just yet.
The truth is that getting into a committed relationship with someone you think will be in your life forever is a huge step. It can scare you, and that’s okay.
The most important thing is that you understand the implications of the decision you are making and the consequences of backing off.
The true mark of a real man or woman is the ability to face the fear of commitment and accept that you have found the one.
Here are some things you will see in a man who is ideal for you. As you know, not everyone can handle the thought of committing to another human being for good, even if that is their chance of living happily ever after.
Of course, life will always have its ups and downs. Even after marrying the person of your dreams, there will be moments when you are not as enthusiastic about life as you would like.
However, a real man will know that having their ideal partner in their lives will be worth it in the end.
So, here are some traits you will only notice in a real man. These factors will make him stand out from all other guys who are too scared of commitment.
This is what a real man will do when he finds the one.
1. Commitment Doesn’t Scare Him
When this guy finds the partner he knows is perfect for him, nothing will keep him from committing to you. He will not let himself think that he should back away.
Granted, commitment is not for the faint of heart.
However, for a brave person who understands their partner’s means, this is actually an important and cherished milestone in life.
Thoughts that scare you into running away from commitment will have no place in your mind if you love for real.
This man will even take it further and be expressive and vocal about the commitment. That is how you know that this man wants the whole world to know that he has found the one.
Not everyone sees a beautiful future, especially people who have been through very rough times in the past. However, a brave man who loves will believe in a beautiful future once he finds his one and only.
For this reason, this man will take a chance on the lady he loves regardless of the hardships he has gone through in the past.
Real love is very inspiring, and it fills people with lots of positive emotions. Even though the future might look terrifying for this man, he will not let fear stand in his way of making his dream of living with the partner he loves slip through his fingers.
He will stand up to fate and ensure that it gives him a chance to have his lover by his side at all times. That is why the greatest love stories are still retold to this day because they prove that love conquers all on many levels.
For this man, looking at the one he loves will cause butterflies in the stomach. Therefore, a real man will have no problem fighting for the one he loves.
Even if he is weak, he will find a way to be strong for the sake of the one he loves.
He will stop at nothing to make her happy, and he will withhold nothing from her. This man knows how to love and will sacrifice and compromise for the person he loves.
If you have found such a man, make sure you help him pursue his ambitions and maintain his identity. That is the least you could give to a man who could give anything for you.
Don’t take advantage of his love and make him miserable for choosing to take a chance on you.
2. He Won’t Try To Change You
To a real man, the person he loves does not need to change a thing in the person he loves. He will treasure his soulmate and would stop at nothing to make sure this person has the freedom to be whoever they want to be.
This man would not have it any other way. He will not want to change a thing about you because it is a way for him to prove his devotion and love for you.
True love is unconditional, and one way to prove this is to allow someone to be who they are despite their flaws and imperfections.
A real man does not want the person he loves to feel insecure about anything. He will not be pretending when he says you are perfect either because the love of his life is perfect in his eyes.
As you know, insecurities fill us with fear and make us think less of ourselves. We can even feel unworthy of the love we get from our partners even though we are the best thing that has ever happened to them in their eyes.
Many people run from their insecurities and pretend to be someone they are not. We do this to ensure that we are not rejected.
A real man does not want the love of his life to hide who they are. The things you consider strange and weird are valuable and desirable in his eyes.
This man is not afraid to love unconditionally, which means nothing can easily make him lose interest in the person he loves. After all, we all have these quirks.
This man will find these peculiar traits adorable rather than detestable. His goal will be to encourage you to be who you truly are.
A less deserving man would try to make you into someone else. That can obviously make your life miserable and less enjoyable.
A real man’s love is genuine, because he will love the real you and not the person he thinks you should be.
3. Petty Things Will Not Get To Him
A real man will be mature and will not allow little things to sully your love. As a result, your life will be happy, colorful, and better than you ever imagined.
You will be calmer and settled, and little things will not bother you because he will not make a big deal out of them. In other words, you will not find yourself arguing over little things that don’t matter in the long run.
Of course, all relationships have issues that need to be resolved, but in a relationship with a real man who is not afraid to give you his all, such issues will never break the bond you share.
After all, love is a journey that is full of love, sadness, and joy. There will be bad and good times, but with this man by your side, nothing will be stronger than the love you have for each other.
With a man you love, the obstacles you face along the way will be resolved together.
You will never see challenges as obstacles. Instead, you will see them as a means for you to come together and overcome one more obstacle in your life.
Even when things are tough, this man will motivate you and fill you with the courage to handle whatever comes your way. He will stand by you when you need his help.
A real man will sometimes let you win an argument because he values you and the relationship more than winning a fight. This will make him love you more, and your relationship will grow stronger as a result.
Due to this, you will end up valuing each other and cherishing what you have even more.
When the love you share is true, no fight or argument will be greater than the two of you. Once the two of you understand that, you will have more self-control and greater concern for each other.
You will not have outbursts over each other’s actions. Happiness will be more important to you than any challenge you face.
4. He Won’t Be Afraid To Let Others Know About It
You will know a man is serious about you when he proves that he is no longer afraid to tell the world about you and how much he loves you and cares for you. He will take a lot of pride in the fact that you are together.
This will be his way of showing you that he wants to commit to you and doesn’t mind if anyone else knows about it.
If he shows you this kind of love and commitment, then understand that you truly stand out to him. You are not just like any other potential partner out there.
That is why he will not be afraid to introduce you to his friends or even family.
In fact, he will want all the attention to be on you and will not care if other people disapprove or not. He does not need anyone’s permission to show you his love.
Even if some of his family members and friends don’t approve of you, he will stand by you and defend you. To him, you are all that matters.
His greatest opinion of you will be what he thinks of you, not what other people say about you.
As you know, society does not always approve of us.
For instance, some of us are introverted, and others are extroverted, and both of these traits are treated differently by society. So, not everyone will approve of who you are, no matter how hard you try.
However, since this guy knows who you really are and loves you for who you are, he will not need anyone’s opinion of you to decide whether to love you or not. A true man will accept you for who you are, and he knows that many of the people disapproving of you don’t know you as well as he does.
5. He Has No Problem Discussing The Future With You
Some guys feel like their future is being ruined by committing to the person they love. However, commitment feels like freedom for a real man because love is very liberating to someone who is not afraid to embrace it.
He will see a future with you as a chance to spend the rest of his life next to the most important person in his life. So, he will not shy away from discussing the future with you regardless of whether you are talking about marriage or living together.
In fact, he will look forward to talking about the future with you.
When a real man is in love, he wants nothing but to spend forever with you. He will want you two to plan a future together.
His focus will not just be on what he wants to achieve in his life, but the beautiful life you can build together. At the very least, he will want you to be part of his dreams.
More importantly, he will make sure that your ambitions are aligned so that you are both happy with the future you are pursuing together as a couple.
Before any major life decision, he will talk with you and get your opinion. That will be his way of showing you that there is no future for him without you in it.
6. He Will Always Find Ways To Prove His Love To You
When a real man is in love, he will always find ways to prove how much he loves you. He will love nothing more than to prove to you that you are the love of his life.
He might give you a big bouquet, buy you a fancy gift, or give you a nice compliment.
This will prove to you that he treasures you because he knows that finding the perfect person is never easy.
He might kiss you on the forehead, treat you to a trip, and even embarrass himself to show you how much he loves you. That is what a real man in love does.
To a real man, chivalry is not an outdated habit.
There is nothing this man will love more than seeing a smile on your face. Therefore, he will find ways to surprise you to make sure you never forget how much he loves you.
A man who wants to spend the rest of his life with you will never shy away from expressing his love for you because you are worth fighting for.
Finding such a man means you are fortunate because someone willing to make a fool of themselves for you surely loves you.
So, if you land such a man, make sure he also understands that you love and care for him by supporting him and helping him become the best version of himself. It’s the least you can do for a man who is willing to sacrifice everything to ensure you are happy for the rest of your life.