Published in Aug 2018 / Updated in Aug 2021
The truth they say is hard to believe, however believing it is a way of setting yourself free. What you are about to read are vital truths that will rock your world and create something unforgettable in your heart forever. All you need is to accept them because they can give you the peace you lack. These are not facts but principles to live on. You must understand that facts are the present situation of a certain thing and present situations are always subject to change.
Truth or principles, on the other hand, refer to foundational laws on which everything stands. These five truths must be the foundational laws you must accept if you want to be free from anything. They aren’t just good medicine for you and your loved ones’ collective self-absorption. It will also help you to have more realistic expectations about life.
According to Jim Morrison, “The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.”
Five hard truths to help you in your life
Truth 1: You can’t please everybody at the same time
Look at people who are respected and lovable around you. Did you think they got to where they are by loving and pleasing everybody they met? They stuck with what they believed in and never apologized for their beliefs. Even in the face of dissent, criticism, and opposition, they held on to their beliefs. The sardonicism of pleasing people is that you won’t make good friends out of them. In fact, you sacrifice so much without any reward.
The only way to be free and meet your own expectation is by letting go of the expectations others have for you. The quest of trying to please everyone at the same time is like trying to catch your shadow. Settle this truth in your heart, and you will set yourself free from the entanglement of pleasing everyone.
Truth 2: You don’t have to be who you were yesterday
Yes, you heard me right. Most of us have been under pressure to continue being the person we choose not to be. We are afraid of change. Change can be positive, so be brave about it. Create your own personality. Don’t live in the shadow of another person. You have only one life to live, live it as an original and not a duplicate. Change into who you want and leave others to deal with the transition that change brings.
Just because you acted in a certain way yesterday doesn’t mean you have to adapt to the same behavior tomorrow. According to Lady Nancy Astor, “The main dangers in this life are the people who want to change everything – or nothing.” You have heard it from the first female member of the British Parliament.
Truth 3: Self-Care and Self-Love are not the same as being selfish
To be the best version of ourselves, we need to cultivate self-care and self-love because only then can we be useful to others. You cannot give others what you don’t have. Self-love is very important because according to Franklin “He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” Without this, we can’t contribute meaningfully to society or improve our world. Audre Lorde once said, “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Truth 4: There is no such thing as “Perfection”
Nothing in life is perfect except God. There are no perfect jobs, relationships, people, etc. There is no perfect situation or moment, we take moments and make them “perfect” for us. Perfection is only a myth. We will make mistakes, and the moment you stop expecting people to act or behave perfectly, you can appreciate them for who they really are. Because of the quest for perfection, people live a “fake” life. Embrace this truth.
Truth 5: Life is not a competition
Remember this and NEVER forget it, there are no real losers and winners. We are on our own different and unique path. The time to get to our destination is different. Comparing yourself with others creates dissatisfaction and unnecessary stress. “Every man must do two things alone. He must do his own believing and his own dying,” said Martin Luther. If you are looking for the surest path to frustration, try comparing yourself to someone. Focus on your own race and be your own competition.
Following these five hard truths will surely set you free. Ponder upon them, memorize them and let them take total control of your thinking. Life is all about practice. We are the result of our previous practice. Repeat them repeatedly. Remember repetition is a law, deep and a lasting solution. Set yourself free.