You can’t nail this adulting thing, until you live your best life, on your own. Being single is a blessing, a time to learn, and to grow up. Actually, “glow up” and get your BS together so that you can enter another stage of your life: a healthy, mature relationship.

If you’re jumping from one relationship to another, it’s not them, it’s you. Being single is a teachable time of your life, and the best way to truly get to know yourself. Here’s what you can learn from being alone, but not lonely.

Invest in yourself

Your health, wellness, eating habits will determine your future. It’s no joking matter, and you know I’m right.

Instead of checking Tinder, take time to prepare healthy meals, do your workout, and learn to cope with stress.

And when you’re alone, it gives you more time to read, join classes and explore your interests.

The road to happiness

Nobody has the power to make you happy, but you. No matter how rich or popular you are, if you’re not working on creating joyous moments for yourself, you’re going nowhere.

Knowing and accepting that your happiness is up to you only is a gift. So, what are you going to do about it? You don’t depend on anyone, and you should be celebrating. Dedicate your energy to finding your passions and exploring whatever it is that makes you smile.

Meet new people

Don’t just Netflix and chill, step outside, and get to know new people. Go to museums, gallery openings, expand your horizons.

Use the extra time to do things on your own, get self-validation, and you might end up meeting some new friends on the road.

Part of “glowing up” is knowing how to socialize and be able to express yourself in various situations. Besides, when you’re always out and about, you’re more likely to meet someone interesting. But that isn’t your goal, because you’re an energetic, independent, single individual.

Traveling adventure

Traveling solo is going to make you stronger and empowered. You’ll be liable for everything: destination, tickets, sightseeing, budget, … It’s a lot of responsibility, yet it’s highly rewarding. Your first solo travel is the best present to mark your remarkable single life.

When you learn to take care of yourself fully, you’ll become a better partner for your future loves. It’s also a great way to reflect on your life and gain a new perspective. Who knows, maybe you’ll decide to move to a new country and start over. It’s not unheard of.

Independence is sexy

When you finally nail the whole single life, you’ll be more confident and more aware of your qualities. After a certain period, you will start to think differently about your ideal partner and look for someone worthy of you.

Getting to know yourself is hard, but when you start, it’s addictive. You learn to love your imperfections while working on constant improvement. Being clingy is a major turn off, but independence is sexy. And you can’t fake it.

Stop thinking you’re an old maid, and that you’ll end up alone with seven cats. Even if that happens, so what? Learn to deal with being single, but not feeling lonely. Once you do meet the right person, you will comprehend that everything you did and achieved during your single phase, was meaningful.

Enjoy each day because once you are in a couple again, you will miss a certain amount of freedom, peace, and carefree life you have at this moment. The only relationship that defines you is the one you have with yourself!