Adulthood has shown us that certainty is a myth. But it's also something that makes people comfortable with their lives and their selves. Whenever this aspect is wobbly and slowly transcends the boundaries of our safe zones, then we can say - BOOM, SHOWTIME!
Grab some popcorn, and watch how you slowly fall apart.
Insecurities attack our minds like cancerous cells. They plant seeds that grow into poisonous ivies and disrupt our self-esteem. And when we're dealing with low self-esteem, we're vulnerable.
In case you're still wondering what to do whenever it seems like there's no hope and your self-motivation ship has sailed: try self-help books!
Yes, yes, I know! I can already sense some eyes rolling because I was the same. But hear me out: these books work, only if you pick the right information very wisely.
1. Make Your Bed By William H. McRaven
If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.
Indeed. Even baby steps are better than no steps at all!
The easiest thing to do when you feel like the whole world is against you is to give up. And not just give up but blame anything else to put the dust under the rug and let it sink.
This small book will give you a reason to start rooting for the small things that happen to you daily.
Get up and make your bed. Pour some coffee or tea into your favorite mug. Rummage through your favorite playlists on Spotify. Cook pasta with your favorite sauce. Call your friend and talk. Kiss your loved one.
Small things can be great. All small things that lighten your day are awesome!
2. Digital Minimalism By Cal Newport
Being up to date with social media could make you overwhelmed in certain situations. This is the breaking point where anxiety starts its little show in your mind.
When phones and computers get crazy with notifications that attack like pouring rain, you can easily feel annoyed with your day. Or on the contrary, you'll end up spending a couple of hours obsessively checking what's going on or what's new.
Newsflash: Nothing's new. You've scrolled through all those pictures of Karen posing with her little mushy Shih-Tzu for the twentieth time. That's all for today, folks!
This book can teach you how to value your own time. How to train your mind to stay focused and take control over your time, one step at a time. You won't even need to back off from social media if you don't want to.
Simply put, humans are not wired to be constantly wired.
So, be it. Be free, be wild, be you, do you. Have zero regrets for being just your simple YOU.
3. The Upside of Stress By Kelly McGonigal
I bet some of you get stressed even when you hear the word 'stress.'
But is it that bad? Is stress something really scary, or we're just programmed to accept it that way?
Believe it or not, stress CAN be good. And I'm not talking about the toxic side of it, where you're worrying yourself over things that you can't change.
Try to remember all those times when you had deadlines at school or work, and stress helped you push yourself out of your comfort zone and helped you achieve great new things.
Well, feel free to get known with one of the many upsides of stress!
Get up early and seize the day! Arrive at work on time. Get anywhere on time. Balance your nutrition and eat healthily. Stay active, learn how to be productive, and stop losing time in procrastination.
Of course, it's important to mention that who we are and what we will achieve depends so much on these small habits that we do every day. Whether they are healthy or not, and either we like it or not, our habits define us.
There are many practical techniques mentioned in this book that you can apply to improve the habit-building process.
Forget about goals that make you feel anxious, and try to focus on the system instead.
Change aspects of yourself, to change your habits.
Motivation is a hyped-up thing. Always tend to design your environment to support YOUR habits.
Habits do not restrict freedom. They create it. Building habits in the present allows you to do more of what you want in the future.
Yes, it's all in the habits.
5. You Are a Badass By Jen Sincero
When your low self-esteem is put to a test, you often deal with some mental barriers that constantly hold you back from your goals.
You can change your outside. Cut your hair, buy new shoes or clothes. But all these things are nothing more than instant mood-boosters. And what matters most are those inner things that the eye can't see.
This book is your daily reminder that you are not alone. And despite all things and odds - you can, and you will do it!
Timeless words of wisdom molded encouragingly are nothing new or unknown. But they surely can keep you above water while you're trying to swim your way.
There's nothing wrong with feeling insecure from time to time. It's a normal adult thing. But if this melancholic period starts taking its toll on you, then you can be sure that now is the time to take the wheel in your hands and help this ship sail.
Don't be afraid to try finding your solace in motivational books. At least they can be entertaining!