I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but chances are that if you are in the friendzone, it's probably your fault. Without realizing it, you might have made one of these 5 conversation mistakes that put you in the friendzone.
But we live to learn. So, to avoid a similar outcome in the future, let's have a look at conversation mistakes that send many guys to the friendzone in their millions.
If you seem to suffer the annoying fate of being friend-zoned by the girls you want to start a relationship with, then it's possible you haven't mastered what to talk about in a conversation with a girl to make her yours.
Fortunately, getting out of the friendzone is easier than you think. Avoiding the friendzone for most guys is as easy as avoiding these few conversation flaws when talking to the girl in person, on phone, or through texts.
1. Being "Friendly" Is The Most Common Mistake That Puts You In The Friendzone
The reason they call it the friend zone is that those who fall victim usually focus too much on being friends. Some fellas believe that by being a good friend, they will make the girl see the immense potential they offer. That's a terrible mistake.
Girls see what you show them. If you are acting like a friend, they will consider you a friend and nothing more. Similarly, if you act like an a-hole, they will also see you as nothing more than a jerk.
So, stop hiding your intentions to date this girl behind the friendship cloak. Girls will not waste their time trying to peel back the layers to see your romantic potential.
If you want the girl to see you as a romantic partner, make that clear as soon as possible. Even if she does not have any interest in that situation, you will at least know early enough. This will keep you from wasting your time in the friendzone wondering if your romantic fantasies will ever turn into reality.
To avoid seeming platonic, express your desire to have a romantic relationship with the girl early on. You can use subtle sexy vibes, flirt, try to get physical, and do other things to make her realize that you see yourselves becoming a couple and not just BFFs.
2. Being A Texting Buddy And Failing To Flirt
Some guys think that texting the girl all the time and getting timely and excited responses will make them romantic partners. It doesn't work that way.
If you want her to take you seriously as a partner, you have to make that clear in your texting. Talk about meeting up for romantic dates, or having a relationship.
If you just talk about general stuff and exchange funny memes, you will quickly end up as a texting buddy and ultimately a friend.
Whenever you text her, let her be excited at the possibility of having a romantic time later or a boyfriend-girlfriend conversation. All other texting stuff will build rapport but no romantic desire in her.
In any case, you can still build rapport and be her friend even as you focus on building a romantic relationship.
3. Failing To Step Up
When you approach a girl, chances are that she will let you chat her up knowing that you will eventually make a move. But it's a limited window of opportunity, and if you miss it, you will end up in the friend zone before you know what's going on.
So, don't hold back. If she says she wishes she had a guy like you to date, don't pass up on the chance by acting all nice and friendly. If you do, she will decide you are the wrong guy for her and you will become one of her many guy friends.
4. Not Demonstrating Serious Dating Intent
Some guys miss out on great opportunities to date the girl of their dreams because they did not make enough effort. You were talking to the girl, asked her out on a date, she laughed it off, and you did not bring up the subject ever again.
Obviously, she will assume you were truly joking and stop seeing you as a potential partner. So, make sure she knows you are serious about dating her. Chances are that many guys joke about wanting to date her, and she won't know you are serious if you don't make a little more effort.
5. Trying Too Hard
It's okay to make an effort to make her see that you are serious about making it work with her, but don't go over the top. If you try too hard by sending a dozen texts at once, calling all the time, or asking her to be yours with every text, you will be lucky if you end up in the friendzone.
Such guys come off as creeps, and that's the last impression you want to create if the girl is to become yours.
This includes apologizing all the time for talking a little too long to respond to your texts or sending too many memes.
But if she has already friend-zoned you, is it possible to get off the friendzone?
The good news is that yes, you can totally get out of the friendzone and even make her your girlfriend.
The problem is that many guys say things like this: "she friend-zoned me so I stopped talking to her." That makes it seem like she dodged a bullet because you never expressed an intention to date her. It was like you were pretending to be her friend with ulterior motives.
So, once you have seen the signs you are in the friend zone through text or some other way, it's time to work on changing her perception of you.
If you want to know how to get off the friendzone, you first need to learn how to respond to a friend zone text. Getting angry and ignoring the girl will not make it easier for you.
While at it, avoid conversation mistakes that turn off women such as arrogance or talking only about yourself.
The above conversation mistakes are meant to help you answer one all-familiar and heart-breaking question: why did she friendzone me?
And so, in consideration of the fact that you are probably in the friend zone because of your own mistakes, it's up to you to learn some tricks on how to get out of the friend zone fast.
Believe it or not, there are many friend zone success stories out there. And you can be among them if you handle the situation in a way most fellas don't.