Finding the right life partner is not always easy, and sadly, many people end up with someone who is not what they first appear to be. Many will be familiar with the experience of meeting a potential partner who is charming, polite, loving, romantic – everything you could want in a partner. But then there is a sudden turning point where they become the total opposite of what you first experienced.
Unfortunately, narcissistic partners are all too common and it is often a while before people realize what they are really like. This is because they are very good at hiding their narcissistic personality at first and they can come across as really genuine. However, they then manipulate others using whatever means necessary, including emotional and physical abuse. For those who end up in a long-term relationship with someone like this, life can be very difficult even when you have managed to cut ties with them.
Some of the Problems You May Face
Once you have eliminated the narcissist from your life, you have definitely made a very big positive step forward. However, there are still many hurdles you may have to overcome before you get your life back on track. Some of these include:
Regaining Your Independence
When you have a narcissistic partner, they will manipulate you, belittle you, and control you. This means that, somewhere along the line, you may end up losing your independence and be totally under their control. Everything to say and do is largely controlled by your partner, and this can leave you struggling to manage once they are no longer around. So, one of the major hurdles you may face is regaining your independence and learning how to be in control of your own life again.
Rebuilding Your Confidence
Being with a narcissist will inevitably take its toll on your confidence. In fact, this is one of the main things the narcissist will work on, as the less confidence you have the easier it is for them to control you. Some people end up being a shell of their former self after being involved with a narcissist, and it can be very difficult to pull yourself back up from this. So, another major hurdle you will face is rebuilding your confidence levels, which can be a very slow and challenging process.
Recreating Your Support Network
When you finally get rid of your narcissistic partner, you will need to have a close network of friends and loved ones around you for support. However, there is a good chance that your former partner may have isolated you from those you were once close to, which makes it more difficult for you to get this support. Fortunately, people who love you will know what you have been through and will be more than happy to step in and provide you with the support you need. So, you also need to recreate your support network to help you get back on track.
Rebuilding Your Relationships
The chances are that your relationship with a narcissist has resulted in you losing many good friends and people close to you. Some may have warned you and been unable to continue watching you go through the misery of being with a narcissist. Others may have been driven away by the words or actions of your former partner. Whatever the reasons, it is important to try and rebuild important relationships with those you were once close to.
Getting Back on Track
While it may take some time, and it will probably be challenging, it is important to move forward and think positively about the future. Getting rid of the narcissist in your life is a very important first step. However, it is important that you use what happened as a learning curve, move on, and don’t let your ex-partner control your life even when they are no longer around.