Romance is difficult and definitely not for the faint of heart. It takes two, but perhaps, this time, your guy is a loser. So now what?
Sometimes, it doesn't work out because those involved have different ideas of how a relationship works.
Other times, the person you get involved with is a loser and not worth your time or love.
Let's take a look at the 15 signs that will tell you if a guy is a loser and that it's not your fault things aren't working out.
Can't Apologise
We get it - saying sorry isn't always easy. But you have to eat humble pie every now and then in a healthy relationship.
If your guy is too proud to say that he is sorry, or even admit that he messed up, you've got a loser on your hands.
This kind of guy is actually very immature and having a good relationship with him isn't easy.
There is no such thing as positive critique where this guy is involved and that's never a good sign.
Demanding and Controlling
When a man is controlling and demanding, you should hear that voice in the back of your mind screaming 'red flag!'.
Healthy relationships are about being equal partners and show mutual respect. Demanding and controlling behaviour is a big no-no and the sign of a loser.
Chances are this guy is not in control of his own life and heading for disaster. Take our advice and walk away while you can with as little emotional damage as possible.
Forgets Your Birthday
Sure, we all forget important dates. But all the time? If a man can't be bothered to remember your birthday when you've been together for more than one celebration, it's bad.
Not only is this a sign that he doesn't really care all that much, but it also shows that he's quite inconsiderate.
And who wants to date someone like that?
No Aspirations
We're not saying you have to date someone who has a complete and detailed 10-year plan for his life.
But when a guy doesn't have any aspirations, you shouldn't hang around for too long. A lack of plans for his own life doesn't bode well for your relationship.
Before giving up on this guy though, try to inspire him. Maybe all he needs is a friendly kick in the behind.
No Consideration
Expecting a lover to want to know about your day and your feelings constantly is a bit much. But it's only normal for couples to care about how their other half is feeling.
If you had a bad day and he couldn't be bothered to just ask what's up, consider getting out.
Such behaviour is selfish and will leave you in a cold and one-sided relationship that's going nowhere slowly.
No Growth
People change and grow over time. For most of us, at least. Some individuals have no desire to grow, and that's never good for a relationship.
If you haven't seen any personal growth in your man, he could be a loser. Not growing as a person is unhealthy.
Don't get sucked into a life of stagnation with someone who will drain you the longer you stick around.
Money Issues
If a man doesn't know how to manage his money, you should get him help. If he can't accept it, run away. Don't just walk.
Having control of your finances is very important and should not be neglected. If your man is constantly wasting his money on unimportant things, he isn't thinking about the future.
Being in a relationship with someone like that is not only annoying but detrimental to your finances as well.
Treats You Like an ATM
Still on the subject of money, if a guy uses you for his financial gain, get out. You deserve better.
Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with treating your man - they deserve it too - but, he shouldn't expect you to take care of him.
You work hard for your money, and it is not fair that someone else should want to benefit from it without working for their own.
Often, a man who uses his partner for money is in the relationship for all the wrong reasons. Take a step back and seriously look at your relationship.
His Family Warns You
When a man's family is telling you that you deserve better, believe them. They know what he's like, and if they don't think he's good for you, there could be a good reason.
It is quite possible that he is the innocent black sheep of the family, but stay alert about the warning.
If what his family is warning you about is true, you'll want to leave him behind as soon as possible.
The trouble with The Law
This one is pretty self-explanatory. If you've learned that your guy is constantly in trouble with the law, you should think long and hard about how much you want to be with him.
We all make mistakes but if he isn't actively trying to turn his life around, you are not expected to 'fix' him.
Temporary Friends
Making friends isn't easy when you're an adult, but a lack of real friends is not a good sign.
Your man may be a loner, but if he's changing friends left, right and center, something isn't right.
It could be that people get to know him and realize he's bad news. Or it could be that he can't commit to long-term relationships.
Whatever the case, make sure you know what's up with your partner.
Conflict Scares Him
No one is fond of conflict, but sometimes it's a necessary thing. Walking away when your relationship is in need of a discussion is not good.
Constructive arguments help relationships to grow but if your significant other is scared of conflict, there can be no growth.
It might be that you just need to help him learn to work with confrontation. But it's not your responsibility.
Relationship with Your Loved Ones
If a man doesn't care what your friends or family thinks of him, get rid of him. He should respect their opinions and want to get along with them.
The people who matter to you should matter to him. The same should go for you and his family and friends, of course.
Cheater
This needs no discussion. If he is unfaithful to you either physically or emotionally, walk away.
There is no excuse for cheating - you want a relationship to work or you don't.
Those are the top 15 signs that a guy is a loser, and it has nothing to do with you. If you spot these signs, it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship.
