Romance

14 Thoughts You Have In Your First Serious Relationship

There's nothing quite like experiencing your first serious relationship. You feel a mix of excitement, nervousness, fulfillment, and an overwhelming sense of love. It's as though you've finally figured out how to navigate the dating scene, and you're ready to commit. However, for the lucky few, it works out that way. For the majority of us, it's more akin to renting your first apartment. It's enjoyable for a time, but eventually, you outgrow it.

As you navigate this new terrain, your mind is filled with thoughts and questions - a familiar experience for us all. It's natural to want everything to be perfect. However, my advice would be to avoid overthinking it. Take pleasure in this significant relationship, and I hope it works out for you. But if not, know that this experience will prepare you for your next serious relationship.

1. Is this the one?

You'll likely ask yourself this question repeatedly, but it's the first time you'll truly contemplate it. No man has ever shown this level of commitment to you before, and you can't help but believe that he might be the one you've been searching for. He could even be your soulmate.

2. I'm finally going to use all those Pinterest boards

It's perfectly fine to have already planned out your dream vacations, envisioned your wedding, imagined your ideal home d├ęcor, and even thought about what your future children might wear. Until now, these have only been fantasies. However, with this new relationship, you may finally have a reason to bring them to life.

3. Should I say "I love you" first?

In my opinion, a relationship cannot truly be considered serious unless both partners have expressed their love for each other and truly meant it. Nonetheless, there are signs that a relationship may be headed in that direction. If you've been in a happy and stable relationship for a significant period of time, it's acceptable to be the first one to say "I love you."

4. I hope his family loves me

It's likely that you haven't felt particularly invested in meeting a guy's family until now. However, since you may be in this relationship for a considerable amount of time, you may feel a strong desire to make a positive impression on his family. Although there's no guarantee they will adore you, the most important thing is that he loves you.

5. I'll never love anyone more than him

It may feel like there's no possibility of a love greater than what you're experiencing at this moment. I understand because I've been in that situation before, and I was proven wrong. I fell in love again, and the love I experienced was even stronger. Nevertheless, at this moment, it may be difficult for you to imagine a love that surpasses what you currently feel.

6. Should we move in together?

Finding the right timing for significant milestones like moving in together can be challenging. You don't want to rush into it, but you also don't want to wait too long. This is especially true during your first serious relationship, where the decision to move in together is a significant step.

7. Am I ready for this?

The first time a relationship gets serious can be incredibly daunting, but even the fourth or fifth time around can still be overwhelming. However, there's no need to panic. The truth is that nobody is ever truly prepared for it. You just have to trust your instincts and see where the journey takes you.

8. I think I'm losing myself

It's effortless to get caught up in the intensity of a relationship the first time around. You become so wrapped up in each other that you begin to lose a bit of your individuality. It's essential to take a step back and reclaim your identity. Even in a serious relationship, you can still remain true to yourself.

9. But he doesn't like the same things I do

Initially, you and your partner might seem like a perfect match. However, as the relationship progresses, you may realize that he's not as into the same things as you are. But don't worry - it's normal for couples to have different interests, and it doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship won't work.

10. I only need him. My friends can wait

At the beginning of a relationship, we all have a tendency to neglect our friendships. However, during your first serious relationship, you may find that you're cutting your friends out even more. While it's understandable that your partner is your best friend and you want to work hard to make the relationship work, it's essential not to completely ditch your friends. Here's a piece of advice - make an effort to maintain your friendships while also nurturing your relationship.

11. He's so perfect. How did I get so lucky?

It's adorable to think that your partner is perfect, but the truth is that nobody is flawless. While you both may feel lucky to have found each other, it's essential not to put your partner on a pedestal all the time. Instead, try to see each other as equals, and you'll both be happier in the relationship.

12. Is he really that into me?

Self-doubt often creeps in during the course of a relationship. However, during your first serious relationship, this feeling may hit you harder than ever before. You may find yourself questioning why this relationship is different from your previous ones, and why your partner wants to be with you in the long term. The best thing you can do is to accept that your partner does love you and try not to over-analyze everything.

13. I'm a relationship expert now

Congratulations on learning a thing or two about relationships! However, it's important to remember that you don't know everything, and it's not a good idea to start fixing other people's love lives. They may not appreciate your advice, so focus on your own relationship and let others figure out theirs on their own.

14. I wonder what our kids will look like

Now that your relationship is getting serious, it's natural to start imagining what the future might look like, including the possibility of having children. Even if you haven't discussed the topic yet, it's common to imagine what your future children might look like and what names you might give them.

It's natural to feel scared during your first serious relationship and think it will last forever. Don't let your thoughts run away with you, just enjoy the experience as it's truly incredible and unforgettable.