Are you feeling left out when you spend time with your significant other and his mother? It's natural to want to be the most important woman in our partner's life, but sometimes the bond between a mother and son is unbreakable and a little too close. If this is the case in your relationship, it may be time to consider if the attachment is healthy. Here are 13 signs that you may be dating a man who is overly reliant on his mother.
1. She Shows Up Unannounced
Despite living far from his residence, she often drops by unannounced and without calling first. Even worse, she has a key to his home and will let herself in without knocking. To avoid any embarrassing situations, it's best to always be fully dressed when at his place.
2. She Still Does Everything For Him
She performs various tasks for him, such as grocery shopping, packing his lunch, doing his laundry, and making his bed. In a sense, she acts as his assistant. Interestingly, both of them are content with this arrangement.
3. She Calls All The Time
She had just hung up the phone, but now she's calling again. Her constant calls are worse than those of an obsessive ex-girlfriend because he refuses to ignore her. While staying in touch is generally positive, there can be such a thing as too much communication.
4. You Feel Like She Doesn't Think You're Good Enough
Try not to take her behavior to heart. It's possible that she doesn't believe anyone is suitable for her adult son, even though he's unable to do basic tasks like grocery shopping, cooking, or ironing his clothes.
5. She Decorated His Apartment
Even though he's a bachelor, his living space is far from a typical bachelor pad. His mother has decorated it from top to bottom, exactly to her liking. Unless you want to spark a conflict with his mother, who also acts as his interior designer, you shouldn't add any personal touches to the space.
6. Her Guilt Trips Actually Work On Him
Many of us have become immune to our mother's guilt-inducing tactics, but not him. He follows her every word like a cult leader would.
7. He Can't Stand Up To Her
He is unwilling to admit when he knows she is wrong and would never have the courage to tell her. He values keeping the peace with her above all else.
8. He Doesn't Defend You
He never stands up for you when your mother rants about your flaws and ignores her snide comments. He claims to be on your side, but his actions do not reflect this.
9. He Consults Her Before Doing Anything
Despite being capable of making important business decisions on his own, he defers to your mother for even the smallest choices in his personal life. He won't consider trying a new restaurant unless she approves, and it's crucial to remain in her favor as she will likely choose your engagement ring.
10. She's His Emergency Contact
Even after you moved in together, he still lists your mother as his emergency contact. Are you not worthy of being his emergency contact?
11. She's The First Person He Calls With News
Regardless of whether he has received a promotion at work or has been laid off, your mother always seems to know about it before you do. It's natural for a mother to be proud of her son, but why is she the first person he tells?
12. He Compares You To Her
Even when you try to do things for him that your mother has always done, you can never seem to meet his expectations. Even if you follow her recipes exactly, he still thinks something is missing. And when you fold his clothes, you know you'll likely hear a comment like, "That's not the way my mother does it.
13. He Has A Picture Of Her On His Desk
Although she may have taken the photo and purchased the frame, the fact remains that she is prominently displayed on his desk and holds a significant place in his life, while you are relegated to the background.
Are There Any Upsides To Dating A Mama's Boy?
1. He Respects Women
A man who is close to his mother and values her opinion is likely to have a strong sense of how to treat women with respect and kindness. Additionally, a mother's influence can often be a powerful force in shaping her son's behavior and ensuring that he treats women with care and consideration.
2. He Knows How To Give A Gift
Your partner, who is close to their mother, will not only remember important dates such as anniversaries, birthdays, and half birthdays, but they will also express their appreciation for you in thoughtful ways.
3. He's Tuned In To A Woman's Emotions
Having a close relationship with one's mother allows for an understanding of what makes her happy and what may upset her. This can be a valuable asset in any situation.
4. You'll Always Have Somewhere To Spend The Holidays
A man who has a strong bond with his mother will often be willing and eager to visit her, even if it means traveling a distance or rearranging his schedule. This can be a comforting and reliable quality, especially if one's own family is not always easily accessible or desirable to be around.
5. He Has High Expectations
If a man who is close to his mother approves of you, it is a positive sign that you have made a good impression on him and have met his standards.
6. Family Is Important To Him
A man who is close with his mother and values her opinion is likely to approach his future family life with dedication and care.
7. He's Sensitive
A man who has a close relationship with his mother and values her opinion is likely to be sensitive to the emotions of others, including his own.
8. He's Chivalrous
A man who is considerate and wants to make his partner happy is likely to be thoughtful and chivalrous on dates, such as opening doors and offering his jacket to keep her warm.
9. He'll Only Take You Home If He's Serious About You
If a man who is close to his mother introduces you to her, it is a sign that he is serious about the relationship and values his mother's opinion.
10. He Understands (or At Least Respects) Your Period
A man who is close to his mother is likely to be understanding and considerate when it comes to your emotional well-being. He may even do small things to show his support and care, like bringing you a hot water bottle or chocolate when you are feeling upset.
11. He Was Instilled With Certain Rules
If a man who has a close relationship with his mother has learned to be independent and make his own decisions, he is likely to have internalized the values and behaviors he learned growing up and use them as a guide in his adult life.
12. He's Honest
If a man had a close relationship with his mother and was open and honest with her during his childhood, this habit of honesty will likely continue in his adult relationships.
13. He's Committed
A man who has a close relationship with his mother is likely to understand the value of commitment and be willing to devote time and effort to maintaining a relationship. This is because he has likely been by his mother's side for much of his life and understands the importance of being there for someone you care about.
14. He Knows When To Shut Up
Mothers who are very caring and affectionate will go to great lengths to ensure the well-being of their sons, including setting rules and expecting them to be followed. A son who is very close to his mother understands what behaviors are appropriate and which are not, and can distinguish between the two without needing to be told.
15. You Get Another Mom
If you are close with a mother who is very protective and affectionate towards her son, she may treat you as if you were one of her children. She will have the same level of concern for your well-being as she does for her son's, as her primary goal is to ensure the best for him.