Being flirted with can make one feel great, especially when the attention comes from someone they are attracted to. However, it can be difficult to determine if the other person is genuinely interested or just being friendly. To avoid missing a potential connection or misinterpreting a situation, here are some signs that someone is actively flirting with you.
1. They act differently around you
Flirting styles can vary greatly from person to person, with some being more confident and overt in their approach while others may be more subtle. To detect flirting, pay attention to any changes in behavior when they are around you. Signs to look for include increased laughter, nervousness, speaking more frequently or louder, or becoming more talkative.
2. They make and maintain eye contact
The eyes can often reveal if someone is flirting with you. Studies have shown that prolonged eye contact is often associated with feelings of affection. If someone is actively making and maintaining eye contact with you, it's likely they find you attractive.
3. They keep glancing at you
Interestingly, it's not only prolonged eye contact that can indicate flirting. Some people may also frequently shoot quick glances your way and make brief eye contact with you.
4. There's a special smile reserved for you
When someone is flirting with you, their gaze may change. They may have a soft, warm look in their eyes when they smile at you, and their smile may appear to become brighter when they look at you. Additionally, when someone is flirting, they may have a hard time stopping themselves from smiling and this smile may use all the facial muscles.
5. They tease you
Flirting through teasing and making indirect compliments is a common way to show interest in someone without being too overt. However, it's important to differentiate between playful teasing and bullying or insults. If the other person's behavior makes you feel uncomfortable or put down, it's not flirting, it's toxic behavior and should be avoided.
6. Look out for light touches
Accidental physical contact, such as arm or foot brushes, and light touches on the shoulder, can be a sign that someone is flirting with you. These actions can indicate attraction without being overly aggressive.
7. They fidget or play with their clothing
Nonverbal cues can also indicate romantic interest. When someone is attracted to you, they may fidget with their hair, clothing, or hands, as a sign of nervousness. This type of behavior is often a subconscious reaction to feeling nervous.
8. They sneakily enquire about your relationship status
Phrases like "Your boyfriend/girlfriend is real lucky," "There's no way someone as amazing as you is single," and "I hope no one is going to be mad if I buy you a drink," are all ways that someone may try to discreetly inquire about your relationship status. They may be trying to gauge whether it is appropriate to make a move, but don't want to be too direct.
9. They do their best to make you laugh
When someone is flirting with you, they may use humor as a way to make you feel at ease and comfortable around them. They may tell jokes, share amusing stories, and use clever repartee to make you laugh.
10. They laugh at all your jokes
An easy way to tell if someone is flirting with you is by observing their reaction to your jokes. If someone likes you, they will likely laugh easily and frequently at even your mediocre jokes, as a way to show their appreciation and interest in you.
11. Open body language
When attracted to someone, it's natural to want to be closer to them. This attraction can be reflected in body language, such as leaning in, facing towards them, and pointing one's knees and feet towards the person. If someone is displaying these actions, they may be trying to flirt with you.
12. They're usually the first to react to your social media posts
If someone frequently likes and comments on your posts on social media, it's likely that they are trying to grab your attention. Especially if they are doing it on nearly every post you make.
13. You catch them checking you out
If you notice someone frequently checking you out, it's a strong indication that they are attracted to you. They may be trying to express their interest in a subtle way. Flirt back and see where it leads.