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13 Reasons Why He Keeps You Around When He Doesn't Want A Relationship

13 Reasons Why He Keeps You Around When He Doesn’t Want A Relationship
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Are you in a situationship? He won't let go, yet he won't name what you have. Are you catching feelings while he's cruising?

If you're wondering, "why does he keep me around when he doesn't want a relationship?"

I know 13 reasons why. After this eye-opening read, I hope you know when it's time to say no to being treated like a maybe.

Sex With You Is Good

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Sex is a man's innate need. And when he's getting great sex from you, he'll most likely want to keep you around even if he's not willing to give what you share an identity. This is truly a shallow reason but a common one.

What men might fail to understand is that women read more meaning to such intimacies. Sex is often more emotional than physical for a woman. For him, he's enjoying the sex and having as much fun as possible, especially as you're always open to the idea.

To know if that's all he enjoys, take sex off the table and watch what happens. At the very least, you'll know if you're just friends with benefits.

He's Keeping His Options Open

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Many guys who refuse to give their situationship an identity are keeping their options open. He is seeing other people.

They keep you so that if no other person comes along, you become a fall-back plan. If though someone who tickles his fancy comes along, he can easily ditch you under the guise of "we weren't in a relationship, or were we?"

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You Are Catering To His Material Needs

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

It's great being an independent woman who makes her own money. But, if he's out of work or earns little and you're covering for a good number of his needs, he'll keep you around.

This is not because he loves you even if he says so to keep you but because you're filling a need in his life at the moment.

If there are signs that he's not ready to commit and has no real feelings for you, it's time to walk away.

He Is Afraid Of Commitment

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Previous rejection or betrayal could contribute to his fear of commitment. Love leaves you vulnerable. If he has given his heart out before and has been repaid with consecutive betrayals or rejection, he won't be as willing to commit.

As much as he might like you, his real-life experiences with previous relationships will hold him back.

If you want to get through to him, talk it out. Be gentle and reassuring. Show by your actions that you are committed. Most of all, keep in mind that this will take time.

He's Indecisive

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship
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A man should be decisive. He should know what he wants and go for it. He might keep you around when he doesn't want a relationship if he's indecisive and feels insecure.

Does he go off for a while and just come back strong out of the blue? If he keeps up the back and forth, he doesn't know what he wants.

Don't be stuck with such a person. You've got to be the decision, not an option. If he can't find courage, let him go.

You've Become His Habit

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

One funny thing about relationships is that they make you form habits. Let's say you go clubbing every Friday night, Netflix and chill on the weekends. You stop by to do his laundry and probably buy groceries during the week. Not to mention sex on the go. He knows that there will be voids in his life and routine the moment he lets you go.

Doing these things together has become a routine, a habit. If he lets you go, who will do these for and with him? So even if he doesn't want a defined relationship with you, he'll keep you around.

He Doesn't Want Anyone Else To Have You

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

True, men are territorial, but a man who claims territory without defining what you share is selfish. He is enjoying your affection, devotion, and body and feels so entitled. He has you at whim and feels he can dump you at any time, yet the moment you express interest in someone else, he's all frontal and jealous.

Don't allow that narcissist to ruin your chances with others who will truly love and keep you. Ditch him cleanly. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

He's Lonely

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13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

This is another common reason men keep women around when they don't want a relationship. They just want a woman in their life. Not because they are ready to be committed but so that they're not so lonely. Selfish, right?

Don't be so quick to judge. Do a self-examination to determine why you're with him. Is it because you're lonely too? If what you seek is a relationship, even you need to do better.

You're So Independent That He Feel Unessential

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Men want to feel needed. It's just how they are built. If you make him feel less of a man, he won't want to define what you share.

Now, this isn't about intimidating him with your success. Do you go ahead to make decisions without at least informing him? Do you rub your achievements in his face to make him feel small?

When he talks to you, do you listen? Do your actions show respect for him? Your answers to these questions will tell you why you're not in a relationship.

He Doesn't Want To Hurt You

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

If you are being honest about your feelings but he doesn't feel the same way, he might keep things going just so he doesn't hurt you. The truth is, it's better now than later. But, rejection isn't easy, not for the receiver nor the deliverer.

As the receiver, you'll feel hurt, and as the deliverer, he becomes the bad guy. If you're good friends, it'll be difficult for him to tell you he doesn't feel the same way about you.

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It's essential then that you take the steps to know to save yourself greater heartache later.

He's Bored

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Such a cheap and degrading reason. If he is using you to while away time, my dear, walk away.

You're not Netflix, neither are you one of his numerous hobbies. It's plain disrespectful to remain in such a "ship."

He's Avoiding Drama

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

Breaking up any kind of relationship can be messy especially when emotions have been invested. He might continue to lead you on if he feels that breaking things up will lead to unnecessary drama.

What Do I Do If He Doesn't Want A Relationship But I Do?

13 reasons why he keeps you around when he doesn't want a relationship

If he tells you directly that he doesn't want a relationship either from the onset or when you ask for clarification, please take it at surface value. Don't invest more emotions into that situationship. He was being honest.

If his feelings change along the way, he will let you know he wants more like a decisive man. If the present arrangement doesn't work for you anymore, let him know.

You're too precious to continue with being a maybe. Clarify mixed signals and know when to move on. There's always someone better.