For many women, there is more than one love language. Some want acts of service and words of affirmation, while others want gifts, physical touch, and quality time. Oftentimes, there are things girls want but won’t ask for. If you want a successful relationship, you need to speak her love language or languages.
As important as communication is in a relationship, girls won’t always tell you what they like and want. Many times, they want you to decipher it yourself. It sorts of tells them that you are paying attention to the littlest things.
To save you a whole lot of stress finding the answer to the question, “what do girls want?” we have compiled a list of 12 things girls want but won’t ask for.
Everyone loves surprises. It does not have to be expensive; a thoughtful gift that fills a need is often more than enough. You don’t always have to get her flowers, chocolates, or a necklace from Swarovski.
Show up at events in her life that she never thought you would be able to make. Show up at her house unexpectedly on her off day with oils for massages, send her scented candles and sweet messages when she is on her period.
Remember important dates of her life; her birthday, her parent’s anniversary, or a death anniversary. Send her letters at work or record yourself singing and send it to her via your preferred messaging app. Did you know you can send her an email with a mini-vacation plan for the weekend, all funded?
Random Displays Of Affection
Random kisses, hugs, hand-holding, and butt taps – girls love them. They won’t ask for them, but they want you to do these as their man. For no reason, hug her tightly and kiss her on her forehead. It makes her feel loved and protected.
Reach for her hand out of the blues. When she goes “What?” in her cute voice, tell her, “I just want to.” Her joy will know no bounds as it gives her the feeling that you love and still want to make the relationship journey with her. It shows how invested you are, and that is reassuring for her.
Receiving reassurance without asking is golden and that is why it is one things girls want but will rarely ask for.
Late Night Conversations
Talking at the wee hours of the day has a certain vibe, especially when she expresses her pain and just wants you to listen instead of proffer solutions. Most girls love to talk; they want to tell you about their day, down to the tiniest detail, and they love it when you reciprocate.
She wants you to listen to her, giving her your entire attention at that time. When you hear her talking and purposely drop your phone, it makes her happy.
When she’s acting out her day dramatically and gesticulating, and you are responding, it could make her entire evening. Better still, when it’s obvious that you are enjoying the conversation even though it’s midnight, she feels fulfilled.
Take note of her guilty pleasures when it comes to food and indulge her from time to time. If she is a foodie, she will want this even more.
Send her a food tray at work or on her off day from work. Satisfying her cravings gives you an even more special place in her heart.
Affirm Your Love
If her love language is Words of Affirmation, telling her “I love you” via text or calls is great, but even greater is telling her those words in person. Your voice, your demeanor or countenance, and body language will further assure her of the truthfulness of those words.
This does not mean that you should entirely ignore the other love languages. As much as telling her “I love you” in person will give her that buttery, sweet feeling within, accompany it with a small gift, a sprinkle of kisses, and a reassuring hug, and the experience is complete.
Compliment Her Genuinely
She wants you to notice the improvements she has made on things you wanted her to work on and compliment her. When she dresses up, she wants your compliments on how she looks. When she adds a little fat to her behind, she wants you to notice and tell her about it.
If she has been working out to look her best for you, she wants you to compliment her on little changes as you notice them. When she makes efforts for you, she wants your appreciation.
Even better is complimenting her genuinely in public. Looking for every opportunity to say something good about her when you are with your friends, or other acquaintances makes her feel valued.
Your Honesty and Commitment
She wants you to be totally honest with her. Share details about yourself, your joys, and your struggles. She wants to be able to trust you completely. As she shares even the minutest details about herself, she wants you to try to do as much.
Since she has chosen you and is committed to making things work out, she wants the same energy from you. Do not make her worry about side chicks. How you relate with other females should show that you are in a relationship and respect her.
Most importantly, she wants you to tell her the truth even if it will hurt.
Make Time For Her
Everyone is busy, and your baby girl should know that, but carving time for her even when you are busy tells how important she is. No girl wants to ask you to make time for her; she wants you to decide for yourself because you believe she is worth it.
Creating time to see her despite your hectic schedule and showing up for random dates on days you specifically cleared for you both is precious to her. When you are present in her downtimes even when it is not convenient for you and when you appear for her happy moments out of no time, she is happy beyond measure.
If she is an adventurous person, she will love it when you spend quality time with her traveling places, especially when the whole plan is your idea.
Even if she is not adventurous, travel dates to beautiful locations with small events set up especially for her e.g., dinner by the beach, will be so appreciated.
So, plan one and surprise her.
Let Her Meet Your Family and Friends
A girl gets a degree of assurance when you let her meet family and friends. It shows that you are serious about her and not just interested in a short-term affair. She wants to meet them but won’t ask as she believes that you should be the one bringing it up.
Meeting your family and friends allows her to see how you treat those close to you, as this will be how you treat her eventually. When you are her best part, She wants to know those who influenced you and made you into such a great man.
Make Her Laugh
Making a concerted effort to make her laugh especially when she is going through a rough patch or had a rough day, is something she loves. She wants you to make funny faces at her and try your lamest jokes. Even if they are not funny, she might just laugh at how hard you are trying, which uplifts her spirit.
Knowing that you are her happy place, she likes how you make her laugh effortlessly. Well, that is if you are naturally humorous. Not everyone is, but for her, trying is equal to doing.
Be A Gentleman
You might have been dating or married for a while but women always want you to be their gentleman. Bring her her shoes, tie her shoelaces, pull the duvet over her, help her with the door, or do your share of house chores.
When you do things for her that she could have done for herself, it makes her happy. Trying to ensure that she is comfortable just reminds her of what a treasure her man is.
Be A Mind Reader Or Nah
Men are no mind readers. It takes a lot of effort and observational skills to discover the things girls want but won’t ask for. As much as it indicates how invested he is in you, it is no cue to be closemouthed about essential things that could help your relationship.
If he is a man who is doing his very best to make you both work, there is no harm in letting him know what you want, except he is too lazy even to try.
As a guy, you know that women can be unpredictable at times. She might want to say certain things but discourage herself a million times after much overthinking. At such times, ask questions. Questions help draw out the intentions of the heart. It will help you know what she wants and what you need to do better.
Be reminded that your woman is blessed to have you and though her imperfections may overshadow some things sometimes, you are still her most precious gift.