Admittedly, not everyone is cut out for a committed relationship. Even if you have strong feelings for a man and the two of you share undeniable chemistry, it doesn't necessarily mean that you should pursue a long-term relationship. It's crucial to be aware of certain red flags that may indicate that he's better suited as a fling than a boyfriend.
1. He Doesn't Have His Act Together Financially
A man who is unemployed, carless, and still living with his parents well into his 30s is a clear indication that he's not quite on the right track in life. If you do decide to pursue a relationship with him, you may find yourself playing the role of his caretaker, supporting him financially and emotionally. Unless you're willing to take on the responsibility of raising a man-child, it's best to seek out someone who is at least somewhat financially independent.
2. He's Not Interested In A Relationship
When a man tells you that he doesn't want a relationship, it's essential to take him at his word. Trying to convince him otherwise will likely only lead to frustration and disappointment. Remember, if he can't see the value in being with you, then it's his loss - not yours. Don't waste your time and energy on someone who isn't willing or able to commit to a relationship.
3. He Can't Behave Himself
Does he constantly ogle your physique? Is he the type who puts on a façade of arrogance at an upscale eatery? Does he lose his composure easily? If the answer is yes to any of these, steer clear of a relationship with him. He will cause you humiliation at the most inopportune moments, and people will begin to question your choice of partners.
4. You Can't Take Him Seriously Even If You Tried
If he spends every night at the club boasting about his playboy ways and behaving in an immature manner, he is not someone you can have a meaningful relationship with. Even if he claims to want a girlfriend, it's apparent that he is not yet prepared for a genuine relationship.
5. He Doesn't Text Or Call Too Often
If he believes that it is acceptable to not call or text frequently, he is not the right person for a relationship. Guys who are interested in having a relationship will make regular calls and send frequent messages. If he is unable to do this, he is not ready for a committed relationship.
6. He Can't Talk About Anything That Isn't Shallow
A man who can keep your attention will be capable of discussing a range of topics, such as philosophy, literature, or societal issues. If your partner can't have meaningful conversations and limits his topics to trivial matters, it's better to keep him as a casual fling. Talking about Kim Kardashian can only sustain a relationship for so long before it becomes tedious.
7. He's Stingy During Dates
Honestly, if a man can't bother to pay for a drink on the first date, he's likely not worth your time. Being in a relationship with a miser will only make you feel unappreciated or like a sugar mama. It's best to avoid such partners altogether.
8. He's Milking The Honeymoon Phase For All It's Worth
Some men are addicted to the excitement of a new relationship or conquest. If you feel like he's "love bombing" you with gifts and extravagant nights out just for the thrill, he's not a suitable partner. This behavior could be a sign that he'll lose interest once things become ordinary. At worst, he might even be abusive.
9. He's Made It Clear That He Wants To Keep Things Quiet
If a guy wants you as a side chick, it's a clear indication that he doesn't want you to be his number one. So, it's not worth bothering with such a person who isn't proud to be seen with you. In fact, he might not even be worth considering for a fling. After all, dealing with cheaters will only bring more drama than it's worth.
10. You Legit Have None Of The Big Stuff In Common
Although opposites might attract sexually, in reality, dating someone who's your polar opposite can lead to a lot of drama and conflict. Unless you're prepared to argue over every little thing, it's better to keep the relationship at a fling level.
11. He's Still Hung Up On Someone Else
Pursuing a guy who considers you a second best choice is pointless. There's no reason to waste your time and effort on someone who doesn't value you as their first choice.
12. He's Openly Admitted That He Has Issues, Is Damaged Or Is Selfish
It's true that everyone has problems, but if a guy is making them his main issue, it's a red flag. This kind of person won't be a stable partner, and you might even want to avoid a fling with him altogether.