Texting can be tough, especially when you're waiting for a reply. It's common to overthink and stress about different possible scenarios while you wait. However, rather than allowing your worries to consume you, consider trying some of these mantras. They can assist you in combatting negative thoughts and maintaining a positive mindset.
1. "I'm A Worthwhile Human"
It's common to fall into the trap of allowing others to define our worth. However, the truth is that you have inherent value, just the way you are. Your worth is constant and unchanging, regardless of external circumstances, such as whether someone is responding to your messages or not.
2. "Other People's Actions Or Inactions Don't Define My Worth"
The extent of your worth as a human being isn't determined by whether or not someone responds to your text message. Your inherent value is constant and unassailable, regardless of external factors. It's easy to feel disheartened when someone doesn't reply, but rest assured, this does not diminish your worth as a person. You remain a valuable and significant human being.
3. "I Can Live My Life Now"
It's natural to become consumed by anxious thoughts about possible outcomes. However, it's important to keep in mind that your life is happening in the present moment. Stay engaged with the people around you, give your best effort in your work, and fully participate in your life. Avoid becoming overly preoccupied with worry. Remember, life is meant to be lived in the present.
4. "It's Probably Not As Bad As I'm Thinking It Is"
We often tend to catastrophize situations, imagining the worst possible outcomes. We might think that the person has passed away, stopped loving us, or is about to leave us. However, it's essential to remind ourselves that the reality is often less dire than our worst-case scenarios. In all likelihood, the situation is caused by a minor issue that we have magnified in our minds. Take a deep breath, and avoid overthinking. It's best to wait and see what happens instead of jumping to conclusions.
5. "It's Likely Nothing Personal"
It's highly probable that the person is occupied with other activities. They might be working, spending time with friends, or simply busy with their routine. It's unlikely that their lack of response is a personal attack against you. Even if they are upset or feeling uneasy, it may have nothing to do with you. Perhaps they had a rough day, or someone else caused them to feel uneasy. Human beings usually have a lot going on beneath the surface, so it's rarely personal.
6. "I'll Be OK No Matter What"
It can be challenging to apply this principle, but it's definitely worth the effort. Regardless of what happens, such as not receiving a reply or getting a negative response, you will be okay. You will persevere and eventually prosper. Therefore, there is no need to be overly concerned about the actions of others. I understand that it's more manageable said than done.
7. "They Have Their Own Life"
It's crucial to bear in mind that you're communicating with another human being who has their own life, interests, job, and relationships. They may have obligations that keep them occupied at times. You can reinforce this notion by reminding yourself that they have a life apart from you. This is something that you genuinely appreciate about them.
8. "I Can't Predict The Future"
It's effortless to become engrossed in assumptions about what the other person is thinking or planning to do. You may feel confident in your perception of the situation, but the reality is that you can't predict the future, no matter how hard you try. Even if your assumptions turn out to be accurate, the process of agonizing over them is incredibly stressful. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you must let go of these projections.
9. "Waiting Won't Kill Me (if It's A Reasonable Amount Of Time)"
Waiting for a text back may feel like an eternity, but the reality is that it's hardly ever as dramatic as we perceive it to be. Waiting for a response is unlikely to be life-threatening. You can cope with the waiting period by engaging in self-soothing activities and finding distractions. It's highly probable that the person will respond eventually, but don't wait indefinitely.
10. "If Waiting Is A Habit With This Person, I Don't Have To Wait Anymore"
Occasionally waiting for text messages is reasonable, but it's not typical to be waiting for extended periods, such as hours or days on end. Unless you're content with this style of communication, you don't have to tolerate it. If the other person isn't texting you the way you'd like, you can choose to say goodbye to them.
11. "I'm Glad I Said What I Needed To"
It's admirable that you expressed your thoughts and conveyed what you needed to say. Knowing that you stayed true to yourself can provide comfort. While you may second-guess whether you said the right thing, there's also a chance that you said precisely what needed to be said. Therefore, even with the anxiety surrounding why they haven't replied, you can still feel satisfied with expressing yourself.