A lot of things about us could be making it harder for people to relate to us or remain close. It could be the energy around you, it could also be a peculiar personality trait that rubs people the wrong way.

You might not actually have a bad personality, but it can be so intense that other people often feel the need to give you a wide berth.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you should change who you are. People like you are actually a very rare gem. You just need to understand that people will often misunderstand you.

For instance, some people just want a simple life, and they are willing to settle. However, the fact that you are intense makes them feel like you have no place for them in their world.

So, if connecting with other people seems to be an issue, it could be a sign that your personality is too intense and people find you intimidating.

Here are 11 things that prove that your personality might be intimidating to others.

1. You are not very patient with people who want to waste your time.

You value relationships and companionships. But you also have other things you can spend your time on. So, if someone is just wasting your time, you will leave and make better use of your time.

2. You’re far too open-minded.

People are close-minded with the belief that they are just principled and morally upright. But you seem to embrace and explore new ideas as they come along. You will obviously not always agree with them, and you are not afraid to let them know about it either.

3. You solve problems, rather than back down.

When things get hard, you don’t feel sorry for the hand you have been dealt, you face the difficulty head-on. You work until things improve because you are a fighter.

4. You like habits.

You like schedules and consistency, and you create a life on solid predictability. Surprises are less than amusing for you.  

5. You do things with gusto.

You believe that you only live once, and therefore, you make an effort to live life to the fullest. Many people don’t do things in the same manner, and they will therefore not get why you do it. But take heart, there will be people who understand your passion, and you can hold on to them.

6. You’re brutally honest.

You place great value in honesty and don’t shy away from difficult conversations because you want the truth to get out. But not everyone is ready to handle the truth.

7. You know what you want.

You begin with an end in mind, and you make no compromises along the way. Goals have a top priority in your life. But you have to be careful here, a singular focus on the end might make you miss the beauty along the way.

8. You’re inquisitive.

People think you are interrogating them, but you are trying to build a deeper and more meaningful connection. They fail to understand that you are not gathering intelligence on them so that you can use it against them later, you just want to know more about them.

9. Intimacy does not scare you.

Many people confess they need intimacy in their lives, and then, when it comes, they back off. But that’s not who you are – deep connections with other people do not scare you at all.

10. You can see people’s BS.

You can tell a lie from a mile off, and you know when someone is messing around with you. You hate lies with a passion, and you will not stay around when someone begins lying to you.

11. You think shallow relationships are a waste of your time.

Casual flings and one-night-stands hold no appeal for you. You want deep and meaningful connections. Anything less is just a waste of your time.