I am not crazy to think that we should go back to the old dating habits, am I? This hookup culture is really getting on my nerves, and I don’t think I’m the only one. These days, I often wonder if there are any men left willing to make an effort to impress a woman. That is why I think the following old-school dating habits are strongly needed in our modern society.
1. Great romantic gestures
Although in the modern dating world this seems like a fantasy, it can actually make dating a whole lot better. A passionate love letter, a poem, hidden chocolate treasures, and other small things can really sweep a girl off her feet.
2. Making an effort to look your best
As you know, you only get one chance to make a good first impression. But modern guys don’t seem to care about this. Looking good goes a long way in showing someone that you would like to impress them.
3. No WiFi
It’s great that modern technology has given us phones, but they hog our attention and can make us really bad company if we get too engrossed in them. That is precisely the reason putting the phone away while on a date would be such a great idea.
4. Good manners
Obviously, we cannot expect what was considered good manners in the past to be seen as such today. These days, good manners can include sending her a goodnight text, letting her order first and walking beside her. You can also bring her a flower when you go to take her out on a date.
5. Building a relationship
People today jump straight into relationships. In the past, people took their time, and there was no rushing that is causing people to hop from one relationship to the next. Dating was fun, and it did not feel like a marathon.
6. A guy asking the woman out on a date some days ahead
These days, it’s rare for a man to plan for a date. Today, people make last-minute calls, and not for dates, but to hang out. But I believe the dating experience would be more meaningful if the man could ask out a woman on a date well ahead of time, even though women ask guys on dates these days.
7. Dating for other reasons besides sex
These days, it’s practically a societal rule that after a certain number of dates, sex is expected. But in the past, people were actually interested in knowing each other more and building a relationship so that when the time came, sex actually meant something.
8. Walking her to her front door
This chivalrous act should never go out of style, and besides, it’s a great kissing opportunity. This practice is also great in that it makes the woman feel safe, and it sends the right message regarding the man’s intentions.
9. Trying to fix things rather than walking away
In the past, people did not quit easily. Instead, they stuck around and tried to fix things. It was understood that relationships need some effort, which is without a doubt part of the reason the marriages lasted longer as well. These days, people just walk away when problems emerge in relationships.
10. Expressing your intentions from the very beginning
I reminisce on the good old days when you would know that you were exclusive with someone, and having a conversation about the relationship was not such a big deal. During these times, you knew exactly where the relationship was at that moment and where it was headed; at least for the most part.
11. Slow dancing
Clubs are certainly no places to slow dance, but that does not mean you have no other options. Slow dancing is very relaxing, and it helps you connect on a much deeper level and it builds intimacy as well.