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11 Mind Games Guys Like To Play & How To Win Them

It is a common stereotype that women are the masters of mind games, but the reality is that both men and women can play mind games. Both sexes should strive for honesty and openness in relationships, but this doesn't always happen. To protect yourself from being played, it's important to recognize when someone is playing mind games and learn how to counter them. This way, you can "win" the game and maintain control in the relationship.

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1. If you do this, I'll do that later

If someone frequently makes promises to do something for you in the future in exchange for going along with their plans or requests, but never actually follows through, it can be a sign of manipulation. To counter this behavior, try reversing the dynamic by refusing to go along with their plans unless they also agree to do something for you in return. This way, you're less likely to get taken advantage of and you can maintain control in the relationship.

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2. Blaming you for what he did wrong

If someone breaks something of yours and instead of apologizing, they blame you for the accident, it can be a form of manipulation and control. They may be trying to make you feel guilty and lower your self-esteem. To counter this behavior, it's important to stand up for yourself and call out their actions. Don't accept the blame and force them to take responsibility and apologize for their actions. By not backing down, you can maintain control in the situation and show that you are confident in your own worth.

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3. Being the perfect guy

When someone pretends to be the perfect partner in the beginning of a relationship, but later turns into a nightmare, it can be a sign of manipulation and control. They may put on a facade to win your affection and make it difficult for you to leave the relationship by making you feel guilty or like you're the one with the problem. To counter this behavior, it's important to recognize the red flags and trust your own instincts, even if it means ending the relationship. If your friends and family are choosing the person over you, it may be time to reevaluate those relationships as well. Remember that you deserve to be in a healthy and respectful relationship.

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4. Pretending he doesn't care

Many people are drawn to individuals who appear indifferent or aloof. This is often referred to as the "bad boy" archetype. However, it is important to remember that these individuals may be playing a game and using their aloofness to manipulate others. To avoid getting caught up in this dynamic, it is best to focus on individuals who show genuine interest and care. If someone does not seem to care about you, it is best to move on and find someone who does.

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5. The classic guilt trip

Both men and women can be skilled at manipulating others through emotional manipulation. This often involves making the other person feel guilty for something in order to get what they want. To protect yourself from falling into this trap, it is important to maintain a sense of self-assurance and confidence in your own beliefs and actions. By staying true to yourself and not allowing others to make you feel guilty, you can avoid falling victim to emotional manipulation.

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6. Pushing every button

Some individuals may use tactics to provoke anger or frustration in others, in order to gain the upper hand in a situation. They may then use this reaction against the person, making them feel guilty or blaming them for the outburst. To avoid falling into this trap, it is important to maintain control of your emotions and not let others provoke you. By staying calm and composed, you can defuse the situation and show that you are not easily manipulated. This can help to throw off the other person's game and prevent them from using your emotions against you.

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7. Flirting with other women

The jealousy game is a tactic where one person flirts with others in front of their partner to make them feel insecure and willing to do more to keep the relationship. This behavior is not appropriate in an established relationship and the best way to handle it is to break up with the person and move on. Alternatively, one could also flirt with others to show the person what they are potentially losing before ending the relationship.

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8. Pretending to like what you like

The "perfect guy game" is a tactic where someone pretends to be interested in your hobbies and interests, only to later use it as leverage to manipulate or guilt you into doing things you may not want to do, like trying new things in bed, or spending less time with friends and family. To avoid getting caught up in this game, it's important to remember that you don't owe anyone anything, and only engage in activities or behaviors that align with your own values and desires. If someone is playing mind games or being dishonest, it's best to walk away from the relationship.

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9. Using the ex against you

The "ex-comparison game" is a tactic where someone uses stories of their past relationships to make their current partner feel competitive or jealous. They might use this to pressure their partner into doing things they don't want to do, or to make them feel inadequate. To avoid getting caught up in this game, it's important to remember that you are not someone's ex and you don't have to live up to their past relationships. If someone is making you feel this way, it's best to remind them that you are your own person and that their exes are no longer in their life for a reason. And you are not going to put up with the same kind of manipulation.

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10. Getting close to your family and friends

The "charming the family and friends" game is a tactic where someone makes an effort to ingratiate themselves with your loved ones, often in order to manipulate or control you. They might do this to gain support and validation from those close to you, making it harder for you to leave the relationship. To avoid falling for this game, it's important to remember that someone's actions towards your family and friends do not determine their worth as a partner. Even if someone appears charming and likable, it's important to evaluate the dynamic of your relationship with them and not make decisions based on the perceptions of others. Ultimately, it's your own judgment that matters.

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11. Giving back-handed compliments

When a man realizes that you are not interested in him or you are out of his league, he may resort to giving you backhanded compliments. These are intended to lower your self-esteem so that you may start to find him more attractive or think that you cannot do better. To respond to this situation, consider how his comments make you feel. If you do not feel good about them, then it is likely a backhanded compliment. Confront him and ask for an explanation for his behavior. If this continues, it may be best to end the relationship as you deserve someone who truly values and respects you.

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Playing mind games is a common tactic, but it's important to handle it effectively. Instead of stooping to their level, make it clear that you are aware of their actions and assertively assert your own power.

How To Deal With A Guy Who Plays Mind Games

1. Confront him about it

When a guy plays mind games, don't just accept it. Speak up and let him know you recognize the behavior and don't approve. Confronting him may lead him to change his behavior.

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2. Don't put up with excuses or empty promises

Do not be deceived if the person apologizes and promises to change after you confront them. Actions speak louder than words. If they make excuses for their behavior and do not take action to change it, their promises are not meaningful.

3. Lay some ground rules

Establishing boundaries is crucial and should have been done from the start. If you plan to continue a relationship, it's important to communicate that you will not tolerate manipulative behavior, and that you are not interested in being with someone who is inconsistent, lazy, and enjoys playing with people's emotions. If he cannot respect these boundaries, it is his loss.

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4. If the behavior doesn't change, walk away

After you have expressed your concerns, it is up to the person to decide if they will take action and make an effort to be in your life, or if they will continue their current behavior and risk losing you. If they continue to behave in a way that is unacceptable to you, it may be necessary to end the relationship.

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5. Keep your self-respect intact

As women, we often blame ourselves for problems in our relationships. We may try to convince ourselves that there is something we could have done differently to fix things, but this is not always the case. You are not responsible for someone else's behavior, only your own. If this person wants to engage in manipulative behavior, they should find someone else to play with because you will not tolerate it.

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