The first few weeks of every relationship are so full of excitement that the relationship almost seems like a dream come true. During this stage of your romance, you want your partner all to yourself, and you can’t imagine how you got through life without their company.
Nothing compares to the thrill of a budding romance, and the joy of knowing you have someone by your side as you solve life’s problems can be exhilarating.
Unfortunately, as the relationship matures, this energy and charm fade and the things you loved doing together can seem boring and monotonous. What got you so enchanted by your partner might look like nothing more than a habit.
After many years, the fire of passion eventually burns out without you even noticing it. That is one of the worst things that can happen, but there’s something you can do about it.
So, here are tricks to help you keep the fire of your relationship burning even after many years together.
1. Give Each Other More Compliments
Nobody hates compliments, especially when they come out of the blues. Of course, getting a genuine compliment from the love of your life is so much better.
Compliments are some of the things that make you feel that you are truly loved and cherished.
Fortunately, you don’t have to try too hard to find something to compliment your partner on. It could be their infectious smile, their dressing, cooking, and so on.
So, find something positive to tell your partner about, and the bond you share will only get stronger as time goes by. Compliments are the glue that holds most friendships and relationships together, and a strong bond is one of the most important things in a romantic relationship.
When you are in a new relationship, you literally can’t run out of things to talk about. But, as time goes by, you no longer get the urge to share with them everything that happens in your life.
Telling your partner that you just laughed at a hilarious meme on social media no longer seems that important. Eventually, you might even stop communicating entirely, even about things that might affect the two of you as partners in that relationship.
The problem is that things that go unsaid sometimes turn out to be problems that go unsolved. That is why relationships suffer when communication breaks down.
When you keep so much from each other, your happiness and peace of mind suffer. So, learn to confide in your partner, and don’t be afraid to talk about what’s happening in your life.
That is the key to having a happy and fulfilling relationship. Also, understand that talking a lot does not mean you are communicating a lot. There is a huge difference.
3. Don’t Take Your Partner For Granted
It’s funny how the things we appreciated about someone soon after knowing them can seem less important as time goes by. There may have been a time you loved getting a call from your new love, but these days, the calls might feel like a bother even though your partner is simply trying to check up on you and make sure you are okay.
This lack of appreciation can kill a romance and the relationship as well.
So, avoid the temptation to get too comfortable with having your partner do nice things for you. Appreciate them for their sacrifices, and let them know how lucky you feel to have them in your life.
It is just as important to learn to take compliments positively, even when they are about small things in life. Don’t make your partner feel like most of the things they do go unnoticed.
4. Increase The Intimacy
Life can get a little too busy, and enjoying intimate moments with your partner might no longer seem like a priority. Understandably, getting intimate with your partner might be the last thing on your mind when you are too tired.
However, as long as that relationship matters to you, you must ensure you are intimate with your partner.
If you keep putting off getting intimate, days will easily turn into weeks, and the weeks will turn into months without any meaningful moments of intimacy between you.
That can kill your partner’s attraction for you slowly without you even realizing it. So, even if you are not always ready to go all out, learn to give your partner kisses and hugs and other gestures of intimacy.
Such gestures will help them understand how much you mean to them, and that will keep the fire in your relationship from burning out.
5. Support Your Partner
There are few things better than knowing that your partner has your back no matter what. That is the clearest proof that you love them unconditionally.
So, be supportive of whatever they intend to do, and that will have a very positive effect on your relationship. That will build their confidence and your trust in you, and that’s honestly one of the best gifts you can give someone.
Supporting your partner might seem like a small thing, but it can make a world of difference.
6. Learn To Apologize And Accept Apologies
One of the things people in relationships need to understand is that nobody is perfect, even the love of your life. You will wrong each other, and that means apologies will be necessary.
When you are wrong, learn to swallow your pride and apologize to your partner. If you try to act like you have done nothing wrong, you will make your partner resentful towards you, which will strain your relationship.
It is also just as important to learn to accept an apology when your partner says they were sorry. Holding grudges and being bitter about something your partner did to you can seriously affect the quality of your relationship.
Failure to apologize and accept apologies is a sign that your relationship is breaking down. Understand that there will be times when you will have to apologize even when you have not done anything wrong.
These are some of the things it takes to keep a relationship moving forward.
7. Show Kindness To His Friends And Family
Even before you came into your partner’s life, there were many people they cared about. Such people mean a lot to them, and you should be as nice to them as you possibly can.
So, try to befriend his friends, and be good to your partner’s family. You should make a genuine effort to interact with them.
That is one of the most powerful gestures of love in a relationship, and it lets your partner understand that they are essential to you. Your partner will trust you more when they know that you accept the people they love and care about.
8. Start Dating Each Other Again
Once people get into a committed relationship, the desire to go out on dates can quickly vanish. Many people don’t realize that these dates are pretty good at keeping the passion in the relationship burning.
So, if your relationship has lost its passion, and you no longer go on dates, then it might be time you started going on dates again.
Dates are full of surprises and mysteries, and that makes you focus more on each other and what keeps you together as a couple.
If possible, explore new hobbies while at it, but make sure you pick things that both of you will enjoy. You will learn more about each other and increase the amount of interest you have in each other as partners if you do.
9. Surprise Each Other
The last thing you want in a good relationship is to be predictable. Your partner should not know what to expect from you all the time.
Once in a while, bring them a gift, which will keep them curious about what you will come up with next. Similarly, when you go out, don’t visit the same place over and over again.
Try a new place or a new fun thing to do. That will make sure that your partner is always interested in what you will come up with next.
10. Go To Bed At The Same Time
It might not seem like it, but a common bedtime can do wonders for your relationship. Just before couples sleep, they share some of the best moments without the distractions of everyday life.
Going to bed together also shows that you choose to end your days together, which is great.
More importantly, bedroom talk can be intimate and passionate, and just what you need to keep the flames of your passion burning strongly.
11. When You Are Together, Forget About The World
These days, our electronic devices are giving us a lot of pressure. We have become so addicted to technology that we might not even have time for our loved ones, even when we have nothing important to do on these devices.
So, if you feel that your phone or laptop keeps you from interacting with your partner properly, you should make a point of putting it aside when in the presence of your partner.
Reducing your use of technological devices will not just be therapeutic for your relationship but for you and your partners as individuals as well. Don’t let social media be the reason your relationship is dying.
As you can see, you only need to make a few changes in your life, and your relationship can have the passion it once had. You don’t even have to spend any money or a lot of time re-igniting your relationship’s passion.