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10 Ways You're Making Sure You'll Never Meet Someone

As time goes on, being single can become increasingly enjoyable. Initially, it may have been viewed as a temporary inconvenience, but now it is preferred over being in a relationship. However, there may come a point where being single becomes too much of a comfort zone. Here are some indications that you may have grown too accustomed to being single:

1. You have zero interest in going on dates

While being content with your current lifestyle, including your job, friends, family, home, travel plans and goals, is a positive thing, it's important to consider the future. Staying single indefinitely may seem like a good idea now, but in the long term, you may regret not putting in the effort to build a romantic relationship. It's important to consider the possibility that you may wish you had taken the opportunity to date in the future.

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2. You think dating cuts into your life

If the idea of going on a first date seems unappealing and you would rather stay home and watch TV, it may be time to reassess your perspective on dating. The purpose of dating is to have the opportunity to meet new people who could potentially become a romantic partner. It is not meant to detract from your current lifestyle, but rather enhance it by adding new experiences and connections.

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3. You have your routine down to the second

Having a routine can be beneficial, and finding activities that bring you happiness is important. But if you're so set in your routine that you're unwilling to make changes or try new things, it may be an indication that you've become too comfortable with being single. A healthy balance of structure and flexibility in your schedule is important, and dating can be an opportunity to introduce new experiences into your routine.

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4. You turn down dates

It is completely normal to enjoy your own company and be content with being single, but refusing all opportunities to date, even when they are presented by friends or coworkers, could be a sign of deeper issue. Saying no all the time to potential dates may be a sign that you are not ready to consider romantic relationships or that you have closed yourself off to the possibility of falling in love. It's important to question why you are refusing to try and not to sell yourself short by missing out on potential opportunities for love.

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5. You only see the bad in relationships

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that all relationships are bad when we hear about our friends' struggles. But it's important to remember that every relationship is different, and just because one person is going through a tough time doesn't mean that all relationships are doomed to fail. It's also important to remember that every relationship also has its own joys and difficulties, not all of them are full of pain and suffering. Avoiding dating and relationships because of the potential challenges is not a healthy mindset and you should avoid generalizing and judge all the relationships based on one or few examples.

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6. You've deleted all your dating apps and online profiles

Being open to new possibilities and using dating apps like Tinder or OkCupid do not indicate desperation or unhappiness with one's single status. It simply means you are actively seeking a partner to share your life with. There is no shame in this, so if you have stopped using these apps, consider if there is a valid reason for doing so.

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7. You've convinced yourself you have zero time to find love

Life is always busy, with work, travel, and classes taking up much of your time. But that's what it means to be alive. Don't let a busy schedule prevent you from pursuing love.

8. You think all dates are bad dates

It's understandable to be hesitant about going on first dates after having bad experiences, but assuming that every first date will be bad is not the right mindset. Keep an open mind, as you never know who you might meet.

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9. You're becoming more bitter than you thought you would

If you find yourself becoming bitter about being single, it's a sign that something needs to change. Don't give up hope of finding a connection with someone. Negative thinking will only lead to unhappiness and prolong your single status.

10. You freak out at the first sign of a second date

When on a first date, it's easy to write off the possibility of a second date, as it can be scary to leave the comfort of being single. But, by doing so, you may be missing out on the potential for an amazing love. It's ok to take it slow and not jump into dating with both feet, but it's worth considering giving it a chance. You never know what might happen.

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